To think I’m a bit weird

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For context, I’m 40 years old, single and have been for about 5/6 years barring a couple of brief relationships, if you can call them that.
I was married for 6 years most of them unhappily. I’ve realised that I don’t really find anyone attractive anymore, I can appreciate a good looking person but that’s as far as it goes, the people I’ve been with in the past, I’ve grown to find attractive through their personalities and the way we click and get on, even this isn’t happening anymore, if a man flirts with me, in my head I'm rolling my eyes and thinking please leave me alone, is this normal?

Since peri Menopause I've felt this way, no interest

I personally don’t think it sounds abnormal. They say a woman’s sexual organ is her brain. So maybe it would take someone with a great personality who makes you laugh to feel interested and maybe said person hasn’t come along yet. Maybe you’re just not in the space right now. Let’s face it, a lot of headache and difficulties, compromise can come with relationships too so maybe that’s why you’re not bothered right now. It doesn’t sound too abnormal to me anyway.

If you are happy, that is all that matters!
I think is weird to have a relationship when you don't actually love the person, butthat has not stop millions of people doing it....

Yes I think it is normal.

You sound similar to me. At heart , although I don't admit it out loud or act like it outwardly, I'm a romantic. To me, it's how a man talks to me, makes me tick , taps into my humour that makes me fall for them. I can only want to have sex with a man if I've fallen in love with them. (Not always happened, but it's the only time I actually really WANT it )

I really can't for the life of me 'get' the notion of 'friends with benefits ' or 'missing sex' as the pure act. I would miss 'being in love '.

I know it all sounds fairytale and I'm well aware life rarely works within those parameters, but that's what makes me tick. That's what I feel intrinsically.

The modern blue haired folk call it being something? Aromantic? I dunno! I don't buy into labels.

I think that's absolutely right about the brain being a woman's sexual organ !

The man I absolutely instantly clicked with and I totally fell for many years ago was like the female version of me. We had the same sense of humour, same likes and dislikes, we just utterly bounced off each other ! The chemistry was unbelievable. But he was no looker, not at all. That just didn't matter to me. The looks were irrelevant because he seduced my brain totally.

Thank you for all your replies, maybe I am “normal” after all 😂 I see people going from
one relationship to the next and I just can’t understand how they can find so many people that appealing. I like my own space and am happy in my own company so if I were to let someone in I feel they’d have to be pretty special because as pp said it’s stress and headaches!