To be so weary?

[Theroadnottravelled]

I have everything I ever wanted - own house, husband, 2 small kids, a job, a supportive extended family. But I’m just so ground down with it all. To keep the plates spinning. To keep going. I work full time, do the majority of the chores as DH works longer hours. I do 90% of the nursery and school runs (DDs are 3 and 5) because I drive and DH doesn’t and it’s a fair distance. I’m exhausted. Too tired to exercise. Too tired to make an effort. The kids are hard work, bedtimes and emotions run high. Me and DH are more cohabiters than spouses. We don’t seem to have any spare money despite earning decent salaries. Not sure what to do really. Does it get better? I was told that 2 and 4 were the worst ages but 3 and 5 seems even harder!!! TIA.

Honestly it just sounds like you have too much on your plate and there is no secret solution. I’m sure that doesn’t help at all but you have so much to manage, something needs to give. There is also no magic age when things get easier. Yes, things get different and much less relentless, but this feels like more than the kids.

I’m in the same place as you. I could have written your post! I have three DS’ aged 5, 3 & 2. My middle son has special needs. My DH and I both work full time and I work shifts in the emergency services. I’m also exhausted and have little time to exercise. I’ve been trying to work on getting promoted but that eats into any extra time too. I too feel like we are on good wages, but after childcare there is just nothing left in the pot. I don’t know what the solution is but I just wanted to say you’re not alone.

Physically I’ve changed so much since having the children, not in terms of a lot of weight but my body has changed drastically. I used to go to the gym 4 x a week prior to having children and was really toned. Now I don’t even like to look in the mirror. I know I need to find the energy to exercise again. DH and I moved our gym kit into the living room so it’s in front of us to motivate us. He’s started working out but I’m just too tired. I’ve just gone through the menopause too and I’m only 42. I think it was triggered early by stress. If anyone has any advice for you I’m all ears too. Sharing in solidarity 💐