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AIBU?

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To find my friend awkward?

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MJconfessions · 17/03/2025 20:08

I have known her since school, we’re in our 20s and speak to each other daily although I don’t see her in person that often. She wanted to start reformer Pilates and invited me to go with her. We have been taking weekly classes together since Jan.

I was looking forward to actually seeing her more often. However it’s fallen a bit flat…

At her convenience, the classes we go to are on the days that I work. I work weekdays and she doesn’t. I can manage my work diary without oversight however it can be a rush to accommodate the exact time she wants on her day off.

She barely speaks to me before or after the class and we often aren’t near each other during the class. As soon as the class is over, she immediately rushes to get the next (frequent service) train home. She has no other commitments but has zero flexibility to say anything apart from hi/bye. Let alone get a coffee or lunch. She’s otherwise fine with me and messages me as normal.

Aibu to find this awkward and end this set up? I’m only going to these specific classes to see her; but there doesn’t really seem to be much point? I might have a better time going alone or with someone else, and at a less awkward time. But I don’t know if I’m expecting too much or how other people who workout together approach this.

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NevergonnagiveHughup · 17/03/2025 20:12

That is seriously odd - on both your behalf’s. Her that she is so distant and you that you actually bought into this and are asking MN if this is ok. For gods sake, get a grip. Give up the classes or speak with her. Don’t ask randomers what you should do.

MJconfessions · 17/03/2025 23:16

yeah on reflection, I won’t book another class with her. I enjoy Pilates so I’ll go without her on different times. her attitude is just odd as she’s asked to book another class next week and has been totally fine with me otherwise.

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