Primary and bullying

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DC is in y3 and since the start of the year has been targeted by a child in their class - verbal threats but also physical violence particularly at playtime. We've spoken to the school and they are aware. Promised they will keep an eye on it.

At pick up today, the teacher came to me to tell me about yet another incident. DC was thrown to the ground and kicked. Am fed up but not sure what more that we can do.

The child in question has developmental issues so it's not a question of him needing him to be told off. However, what else can we do?

Phrase it like this ‘if I went to work and was physically assaulted everyday I would not put up with it and would call the police. So why should I expect my young child to put up with it?’ I had similar with my child. I’m sick of hearing that a SEN child has physically assaulted another child and we’re all just meant to accept it. Parents also need to take more responsibility for their children, if they are prone to aggressive outbursts!

School will do nothing. Time to unlearn all the kind hands crap. Tell DC to fight back

Is this bully targeting any other kids, or just yours?

Sounds very tough, OP, especially with your DC asking to stay off school so they don’t need to be scared. That would break my heart and make me seething with rage simultaneously.

Your difficulties sorting this out are indicative of why people tell their kids just to hit back harder and not to stop until the other one learns their lesson.

The bully is also targeting others but my Dc seems to be the preferred victim at the moment - well since the start of the year. Dc tried to stand up to them last week i.e. instead of running away, thought it might do the trick but it didn't. I don't think it's the parents fault - honestly, I don't think the kid gets it or cares. Have now emailed the school and will try to speak to the head tomorrow.

Then the school need something else in place. Other child cannot be on the playground whilst hurting children repeatedly. Why should the school expect the other child to have playtimes at the expense of your child. You are being too kind. Up this now!