25 months language development

[Ladybug1235]

Hi fellow parents
I am a mum to a lovely 25 months old and would like some input on language development . Needless to say .

What she can do

1. follow my point and use all the gestures
2. Lots of words words with two /3 words sentence stringed together
3. She can identify things in books and family photos correctly
4. She asks questions like what happened , where is mommy what’s that ?
5. She can answer simple questions lie what’s that , where is that who’s that ? What color is that ? Can you give me the big / small ball
6. Follow simple commands like : stop , wait for mummy and no , pick up the toy and put it on the table , take socks off
7. Answer positively to simple instructions: feed dolly or brush dolly’s , put shoes on , bath time ( she runs to the bathroom)
8. She pretends cook and brings us books to flick through/ read , bring dolly for a walk and pretend mix with a tea cup . She is very gentle with dolly and gives her a Cuddle all the time .
9. She is very affectionate and her tantrums never lasts more than a few minutes
10. She doesn’t hit , kick or bite ( so far )
11. Sleeps through the night since she was 12 months and eats well
12. She brushes her own teeth and can point to all of her and our body parts

Socially, she is an introvert but with her peers , especially if it is a one to one , she looks at them and approaches them . For example , a little boy came over and gave her a stick and she chased him to give it back . She waves at people who interact with her but in a big group she hides away next to me .

The thing I have noticed is that when she gets approached sometimes she goes on a tangent with her speech if anxious . Like she asks herself questions like what’s your name ? And answer with her name .
how was your 25 months old ?
Any other parents have experienced this sort of behaviour

What did you take from the huge amount of advice you have been given on your numerous other posts about your (seemingly perfectly typical for a 2 yr old) DD?

It feels very much like there's an answer you're hoping for but not getting, and perhaps you need to look at some more professional support for yourself as you are very very anxious and I don't think it's helping you or your DD

What exactly is the purpose of your post?

If she is at nursery, what do the staff say about her language and social development?

Pretty sure a 25 month old should not be brushing their own teeth.

I don't understand your concern. You've provided a list of can-dos that you would expect for a toddler. She seems right on track

It is more her language and how she answers open needed questions . She can’t answer questions like “ do you like apple or what’s your favourite food ? What are you doing ?
all the kids her age are fully conversational whilst me still says “ more crackers “ or pasta “ when she wants it

There is absolutely nothing in your OP that isn't age appropriate. 'All' two year olds are not 'fully conversational' most are still only putting 2-3 words together.

You’ve been reassured many many times on MN and by professionals. At some stage you need to ask for help for yourself.

ive said this before to you, you are listing developmental milestones that are in line with the development of a 25 month old. If you are concerned speak with the nursery/ health visitor. I doubt they would investigate further though.

my son is 42 month old is developmentally in all areas currently at milestones for 18 months. He ignores his peers, has ten words, never said mum or mama, he is non speaking (diagnosed), but he doesn’t have the cognitive ability to understand most of what is said to him. He has limited self care ability, can’t dress or help dress himself, ignores most people including peers, stems when happy, head bangs when frustrated, is obsessed with routine, can’t turn pages of a book, can’t pick out pictures in a book but does point at them.

honestly what you have typed is a dream for me! Discuss with her nursery and see if they can assess her milestones, I think seeing where your child is in black and white will massively reassure you that you don’t need to worry.

Two-year olds are not fully conversational! 'What are you doing?' and 'What's your favourite food?' are both questions with an infinite number of answers so far beyond the capability of a child of this age. Lower your expectations and you will worry far less.

She sounds like she speaks incredibly well for 25 months.
My 20 month old says no where near this much and I think she is doing well/ where she should be.
My advice is just enjoy your daughter being little, she sounds like she is doing great.

I was being told she was supposed to speak in full sentences by this age for every request and she still uses single words if not prompted

Who told you that? I remember an anxious parent at preschool saying to me 'The others all talk so much and my Sam only says about six words.' As usual, a couple of months later she was begging Sam to stop talking just for a minute.

@Ladybug1235 who is telling you that a toddler of barely 2 should be speaking in full sentences and having conversations?
Because it ISN'T true.
Some toddlers can but it's not the norm.
A 2 year old won't understand a question like "what is your favourite food" ? She won't know what the word favourite means.
You said you were going to stop this obsession.
Please STOP.

She's 2 OP. She is using sentences - not long ones but you said 2 or 3 words together. That's good.

My young adult kids still use single word answers if they can get away with it!

Do you like apple and what's your favourite food?
Try reframing your questions. Look at my link for Blanks levels of questions. She can clearly answer level 1 questions which are age appropriate. Look at level 2 and try to use those and model back some answers.

Stop worrying and don't listen to the person who told you she should be using full sentences.
https://www.coventrychildrensslt.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Blanks-levels-Feb-22.pdf

Again thank you all . It was a mom from this forum who said that at 25 months her child was speaking full sentences for everything and my little one sounded a bit behind . I mean she uses 2/ 3 word sentences but sometimes she uses one word to make a request like “apple “

Maybe the mum on here did have an amazing talker who used full sentences or maybe she made it up. The ages and stages questionnaires are good resource for seeing where she should be, I wouldn’t take anything anyone says in here too seriously as it’s all anonymous and not verified.

@Ladybug1235 whoever that one person on here was - they were WRONG.
It's perfectly normal for a just turned 2 year old to not be speaking in conversational sentences.
It's rare that they do.

My friends son was having full bloody arguments with his mother at 2. My child had only random words at 3.
Her son walked at 10 months and mine at 18 months.
Both have gone through university and are successfully employed.

It stressed me no end at the time. The way her son could cogently argue why he should have more buscuits even though lunch was being prepared, because he didn't fancy what she was making, haunted me for years😁.

I have never met another child so verbal.
Mine was definitely late, but it worked out.
Keep an eye out, but try not to worry unnecessarily, even though its hard.

Her child probably was doing that as some children can at that age, but that doesn’t mean every child can. Your dd sounds like a completely average child for her age.

@Ladybug1235 also mums often learn to understand what their child is saying before other people might understand it.
I remember being ill in bed when my daughter was around that age.
My husband stayed home from work to look after her.
She had asked for a biscuit ("Bis-qik pwease").
She then said something else that my husband just couldn't understand and she was getting frustrated. He thought she was saying "pretty bow" - she barely had hair then let alone a bow 😂
I said to her "say it to Mummy".
She was saying "put in bowl" 😂
I understood it perfectly because I was with her full time.
What other parents say about their children's abilities isn't a true as they make out.

You were misinformed.
She’s exactly where she should be… ZERO CONCERNS here.
She’s a bit shy sometimes like a lot of children (and adults!) and you are trying to read way more into it than there is. Just enjoy your very TYPICAL daughter.

DD sounds fine, you sound as though honestly you are overthinking things to an unhealthy degree and need some help to overcome this. If you see childhood as a checklist of targets to meet you'll never be free to enjoy your lovely DD and all children are different and not meeting a (pretty arbitrary) set of goals doesn't mean anything.

She is learning to speak and socialise, there is no need to analyse things that seem to be non standard, that is just how kids learn.

Please step away from the developmental checklists, they won't make you a better parent. Do you know why you might feel this need to check up on where your child should be so much? I think that's something worth looking into.

Honestly op she sounds completely spot on and doing great.

For what it’s worth I am sure you know but children do develop at different paces and some are quicker to pick up some skills but slower at others. Development isn’t completely linear. By the time your dd is in primary school you will look back and laugh at how much you worried about this.
Also my eldest dd was a very very early talker. Unusually early. She has autism. My youngest was slower to talk but very active and quicker to move and walk, she’s absolutely fine no Sen. So when all said and done obsessing over this is pointless. What will be will be and there is not much you or anyone else can do about it at this stage anyway. Just enjoy your little girl for who she is.

Utterly age appropriate. Why are you worried about her development?