Never work for friends....

[Donut22]

So I've worked for my best friends husband for 3 years, it's worked really well for me with hours etc, but a few months back there was talk of my friends husband closing down and doing something different.... I asked my friend for a update LAST WEEK in which she said he's not closing down now he would lose to much money etc etc , today her child has come out of school and said in front of me did Dad take the job.... To which she didn't know what to say and just brushed it off. So I am now panicking, why didn't she just tell me he was going for it? All I've said from the start of this is please let me know before hand so I can look for something else and yet I feel she's being really off. I'm going to look for another job just in case but am I over thinking this ...

Definitely time for you to find another job!

Yes this

Your friend is a cunt and she has purposefully hidden vital information that affects you in a very direct way.
If I was you, I would not even bother going tomorrow to work. Teach them a bloody lesson.

It's time to move on.
You've had two clear signs that the business is unlikely to continue.

I suppose they didn’t want to say anything unless he was offered another position.

But time to start looking - they have to give you time off to find a job, and take the day off tomorrow - migraines are the worst.

Your boss is under no obligation to tell you he is closing his business.
I don't expect he is doing it for fun.
But you are right, mixing business and friendships can cause a problem

Speak to him, not her.

Surely he’s is f the OP’s job is therefore at risk?!

If you’ve worked there 3 years and he’s closing the business then you should be eligible for redundancy. Do you have a contract in place?

Clearly you need to find something else OP no matter what. At 3 years, you will be entitled to redundancy if you don't find anything before. Hopefully you do have a contract but if not a) he's in deep shit legally and b) length of time means you will be in a deemed contract anyway. So much for best friend eh? Never mix business and friendships.

When he has decided its defintely happening of course but maybe it was dependent on him getting a job.
Closing a business can be very stressful and as long as he does everything he is legally obliged to then he's done nothing wrong

For context, I’ve had bosses in big corporations risk their own jobs with the level of transparency they’ve provided me in uncertain times. The information they disclosed would have them frog marched out the door if caught, but in spite of this, they kept me briefed the whole time. They didn’t owe me that, but they’re just good people.
This person isn’t your friend.

Probably doesn't want to tell you in case you leave and the other job doesn't come off then they're stuck.

Yes, you ask him. Not her.

I agree.
I'm struggling to understand why @Donut22 hasn't done this in the first place?

In the OP's position, I think I'd want a proper heads up, morally surely that's the right thing to do so she can make an informed choice about starting to look elsewhere? What if, as most of us do, we rely on a regular income? Legally, sure, he can wait til he knows for sure, morally I think he should be discussing the future with her.

A child seems to know more about the future of your job than you do right now. I’d be furious.

She's not necessarily, OP's employer is the husband. OP should ask him. The friend may be in an awkward position. If there's anything to tell about the business it's for him to tell, not her. Why assume the worst of people's intentions?

If the OP wants to feel the most secure, it may be a good time to look for another job.

No she's not. If a woman's spouse got involved in her business by speaking out of turn to the employees then everyone on here would by saying ltb because he obviously didn't respect his wife.

The OP shouldn't be putting this on her employer's wife, she should be speaking to her boss.

given you are both at school pickup, I’m assuming a primary aged child.

seems very odd that they would know that much about their parents circumstances?

Oh I knew every scrap of gossip going at that age. Don't underestimate kid's listening abilities. Plus he probably didn't know it was sensitive with regards to OP.

To the comments saying ask him, although he is my boss, I don't see him much at all, only to get supplies once every couple of months and even then I will probably end up getting them from my friend. So it's not like I'm working with him. I will message him work wise days of etc and that's it. It's my friend that mentioned it to be months ago and I've been told nothing else till last week when she said he isn't going for it. And then today.....

Do you work for him or both of them?

If him, then information is confidential. You and your friend should not be discussing the business and your job.

Honestly I'd look for another job. It's time to move on and you deserve better.

Totally agree.

@Donut22 even if you don't see him, presumably you can email or WhatsApp him (other form of communication are available)