Why would a boy/man (19) be really keen one minute then a bit cool the next?
It’s so many years since I was a teen, but I can still remember having this happen to me and how rubbish it made me feel.
Dd (18) is going through this with her boyfriend of around 6 months, it’s pretty much a carbon copy of a few of my past relationships and I never did manage to make sense of it! It’s like a form of gaslighting because you never really know where you stand.
Up until now it’s been very chilled and smooth sailing, no real red flags, he seemed really keen to meet up, go on dates etc, introduce her to his family.
It seems the keener she gets on him, he goes a bit cooler, keeps being too tired to meet up, or not staying for long, or not having money to go out, or having lots of work to do. It keeps sounding like it’s petering out (which obviously would be ok) but then he’ll make a big effort or gesture, a couple of days ago taking her out to meet his sports friends who apparently were all really excited to meet her as they’d heard so much about her!
it’s confusing for me and I’m only hearing this second hand! I haven’t offered an opinion, just listened, but it’s opened up so many old memories of how I was treated and I just wondered if anyone knew why they do this?!!