Flowers at work

[YourChirpyCoralAnt]

Husband was an absolute reptile last night and we ended up having a massive row- which I am still annoyed about today.

He's just had an absolutely HUGE bunch of flowers delivered to my work.

Now everyone is sitting saying ahhhhhhhhhhh what a lovely husband you have, isn't he lovely to send you flowers at work. Ah what's the occasion- is it just because. Aren't you a lucky girl.

Now I am even more annoyed.

Absolute first world problem I know, but I don't discuss any arguments we have with our friend group as they are normally petty and over in a day so I don't have anyone else to rant to 😂I am now sitting here listening to everyone tell me how wonderful he is when I am still in the I could wring his neck phase.😂

How embarrassing

I would send him something back, you could get a cake iced and delivered to him that just says "Twat"

It is exactly that.

Luckily I start at 6 and finish at 3 so this post is in my own time 😍

My friend's dh sent her flowers to work once - she had recently got a new male colleague and felt like her dh was letting this guy know she was taken - said it was mortifying

Always when I am working from this office. Like you said- it's a nightmare at this venue!

Bleurgh. My husband used to send flowers to me at work on valentine’s or anniversaries. Used to cringe me out, so I made him stop.

My finish time is 3 so I leave at 3.

They bitch about everything, I'm not special.

He's actually had me picked up in a limousine. 😂

I am sure they bitch about me all day- I am their supervisor. I am driving home. Have a lovely evening :)

I hate airing my issues in public and while this is not necessarily that it kind of mixes personal versus professional life. I think it crosses the line and I would be mortified too.
My DH did it once a few years ago before we were married (for my birthday) but that was mainly because I was in London during the week at the time and not in our home, he was overseas. It was more a pragmatic thing as the work address was the only main address for me during the week at the time. But even then the amount of questions was unreal and I was a bit embarrassed, even though he had such good intentions.

Yeah, I wouldn't be happy about that. DH does buy me flowers if we've had an argument but it's a token bunch that he gives me at home rather than a performative bunch delivered to work.

Only time I got flowers at work was when we were working in different locations on Valentines Day and so he had flowers delivered to my work because he knew I'd get them. That was a long time ago now.

Agree. Flowers are easier for an emotionally immature man than actually having an adult conversation and apologising. Performative bollocks . I would be absolutely fuming. I’d not be taking them home , a colleague would have been given them.

I feel sorry for the Op

Pretty sure she expected the same response from us as of her colleagues

when in reality most of us would be mortified and most definitely not see this as a romantic gesture

I voted YABU because my DH never gets me flowers. If we argue, it’s apparently always my fault and he‘ll give me the silent treatment even if I apologise. And if he DOES admit fault, he‘ll still turn it round and say ‘ok I did x but you always do y’ 🙄

However, as others have said- flowers at work is too performative. Arriving home to flowers and an apology would be better appreciated.

YANBU. Decades ago XH used to do this after cheating and/or pushing me about. I was particularly cross about having to commute with unwieldy fixed arrangements, and eventually binned one. We split soon after.

We had a row this is him apologising

job done

It could be seen as a form of manipulation. OP is clearly not done with the argument and he hasn’t given her the space to figure it out. He has bought her flowers almost implying to “stop sulking” and so has the “power” to not allow any further discussion about the argument as in his eyes it’s done. OP needs more time which he has overridden. Of course, it may not be this way but it is possible.

Perhaps they were taking the piss then with their gushing?

This.
It’s performative nonsense, really.