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To ask why a LEA would treat 2 families completely different ?

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Polarbear2023 · 17/03/2025 09:51

I am really struggling to understand this situation, maybe it’s because I don’t know enough about how the local authorities work. We have always been extremely lucky with ours in terms of daughter’s education and overall from others in the area we seem to have one of the “ better “ authorities.
whay I don’t understand is why they would treat 2 families completely different.

my friends let’s call her Katie has a daughter Sophie.
Sophie has an ehcp and was due to start secondary school last year but is not being home educated. Katie says it’s because no school in any sort of distance had consulted back with a yes and the Lea did not find her a place, and would not find an EOTAS or an independent setting.
she has a huge following on social media about this and is often posts videos of inclusion etc
how Sophie is being left with no education.

this year was my DC turn and as expected we fell through a bit of a gap where they are too complex for mainstream but the local Sen schools said they couldn’t meet need as she was too academic.
we approached 3 private SEN schools and the first one we loved they were offered a place and the same LA she speaks about put it through panel and agreed fees and thats where she will be attending.
they said to me before hand that panel would likely say yes as they had reached the limit or their local send offers.

anyway my DC told her friend ( Sophie ) what school she was going to and Katie was speaking to me about it and said has just been declined again for fees from the same LA.

we literally have the same manager dealing with the cases to I can’t work it out !

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Enderwhere · 17/03/2025 09:53

Possibly because a closer/cheaper sen school have offered a place or that the lea have got a yes from a mainstream school so don't want to fund a sen school

TickingAlongNicely · 17/03/2025 09:54

Different year groups
Different needs.

Polarbear2023 · 17/03/2025 09:58

TickingAlongNicely · 17/03/2025 09:54

Different year groups
Different needs.

But if neither found schools but both found independent schools that said could meet needs what would be the deciding factor of funding one and not the other ?

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ForPoliteHam · 17/03/2025 10:23

Possibly because your friend sounds like a nightmare. Wouldn't want her child in my school if she her mother was likely to be trouble.

starpatch · 17/03/2025 10:26

Possibly your friend might not be telling you the whole story? Her daughter was perhaps offered something which she declined?

Walkerzoo · 17/03/2025 10:28

People don't tell the full story. Don't spend time wondering. Just focus on your situation

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