Friend who says «ty inv» but never invites herself

[Ambergiirly1]

So «ty inv» a slang for «thanks for not inviting me»

i don’t post often on Snapchat story but i do like to post about dinners or small trips to nature «walks», when me and my partner do stuff besides from chilling at home. Some of these plans are spontaneously, so i don’t really think of inviting people to that. My friend has a 14 month old kiddo. Me and my partner do things with them more rarely now because they also busy, but not to busy to get babysitter to meet up with their other friends as it seems. But anyways, i know even if we asked them the same day it 90% wouldn’t work for them anyways, because of kiddo’s routine. So i don’t always want to gather for someones elses child. Especially on restaurants, im an aunt of two boys so i pretty much know how it is to eat out at restaurants or less child friendly things with small kids. Its a pain in the butt. But i always find my self asking to meet up but never reciving any invites back besides from «ty inv» wich for me sounds a bit passive agressive, like i could say the same when she post in snap aswell but choose not to.

I would bin her off on the basis of using a moronic passive-aggressive abbreviation like << ty inv >> Is she 14? 🙄

She sounds like a pain in the arse. Why on earth would you invite her to join you on your couple time with your partner?

Copy her behavior. Whenever she posts something she has done with other people, post a „ty inv“.

Everyone replying sounds much nicer than me - I would tell her to fuck off and then block her. I cannot abide people who try to dictate how you spend your time! It’s none of her business what you’re doing, and the passive aggressive entitled messages certainly wouldn’t make me want to invite her anywhere!

This. Or ‘??’

How about <<ty coming!>>? Though I think the thumbs up is probably better.

Is it possible she’s just be trying to be funny rather than passive aggressive? Meaning that it looks like a nice time, something she would have enjoyed, without actually thinking you should have invited her. That sort of approach, where you’d never gush over something and the compliment is hidden in sarcasm used to be much more common.

Sounds like she could do with some time in nature and away from her phone but that’s not your responsibility.

@Phonicshaskilledmeoff that would make more sense if she didn’t do stuff with other people without her kiddo, and probs ask other people to hang out. But she does.

but never asks us or me to plan something, and as soon i post something she gets huffy about it?

@Mielikki why not? Free will.

YABU for not preventing her from seeing your SC stories after she has done this more than once.
You know you can do that without blocking her right?

@melonalone Hehe, like some people make it sound like you are not allowed to post anything in case someone feels left out or huffy about it? Like its no personal to the person or anyone. Just as she posts walks, restaurants n activitys with her partner and friends. Its worse for me because ive been the one asking her but no invites back, but im not that petty to tell her the same thing lol

@BansheeOfTheSouth why so?
she posts all her fun and stuff? But why can’t i do the same?

I’m cringing for her. It’s no one else’s responsibility to entertain her and her dc. It just comes off as needy and desperate tbh.

So accept she's going to comment the same thing every time then.

It's a "woe is me" type approach to life, rather than "omg that looks amazing, we should do that sometime, let's get it booked"

instead

woe me, you never invite me to your fun life... energy sapping vampire,

I'd be telling her she is being pathetic, why would I invite her to a walk with my DH (insert activity here).

Blocked!

@toomuchfaff fr! Like that approach would been nicer and ofc i would invite them next time since it looks like she want to spend time and trying at least for an invite herself.

but it also sucks that she always invite other people or probs invite other people to their fun and then suddenly becomes huffy when me and my Dh do fun things without them as a couple or other stuff. Since we never recieve invites from them. Like its also not our job to entertain them everytime

@Cornettoninja this why i don’t comment stuff like that to her or other people. Because it make it sound like why haven’t i invited like why especially when i get 0 invites back

The little arrows are really irritating as well. Now I know I'm getting old.

OP tell her to let you know when she's got a babysitter and you'll do something. Or ignore her on thumbs up.

It all sounds so juvenile.

I'd start messaging her and inviting her to everything.

Just going for a wee. Wanna come?
Going to buy bread at 3pm, meet you there?
Going to get my piles looked at next week. Hope you can join me.

@HaddyAbrams hahahahahha🤣 i mean kinda getting that close if they akways expect me to invite

Hit the nail on the head there.

It's not your responsibility to entertain them.