To start putting my foot down?

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So I’ll give some background.

I work 13 hour shifts my DC is 9 and me and his father have been split for 5 years now.

the current arrangement means he gets all the child benifit (he was at uni and they were going to make him leave his accommodation without proof he has our DC there so I agreed) he does not pay any form of childcare support either.

he has our some currently Friday 6pm-Sunday up to 9pm if I’m working. He only does this 3 weekends a month.

form other people’s experience am I being unfair asking for 3 set days or how should I make the arrangement so it’s fair on us both? I just feel like I’m being pushed to my limits working 3 13 hour days and doing most of the childcare and being painted as a villain for not being willing to cover more of his time and for working over the weekend.

If he only has his son 6 nights a month then you should have the child benefit and if ex is working then child maintenance payments as well. How is he in any sense the resident parent?

Surely he should no longer get the child credit and should in face be paying you serious amounts of child support as he only has him for 3/7 days for 3/4 weeks? Presumably he’s now working? Does he earn more than you/is he full time?

So he doesn’t pay any child support he is working and I only agreed to sign it over due to him almost losing family uni accom but he has finished uni now so I will apply to get it back

Time to seek child support and adjust the contact time to a schedule that works for both of you.

What kind of schedule are you looking for? Do you want your ex to have your DS every Friday-Sunday? What hours does your ex work? Do you work Friday-Sunday? Hard to comment on what's fair from the info in the post.

No, get what you need. Why do you care about him. He doesn’t care about you or he’d make sure you were both equal. But he doesn’t care about you. He only cares about himself so you just care about you and your son and if he kicks off just tell him to shut up. The men whining that life’s not fair is really getting old.