To be so pissed off at organising this birthday event......

[Idonthavemytoolsmycloak]

And no fucker appreciates it??

Joint birthday celebration for my sister and my middle daughter - totally giving myself away here - 40 and 18.

Floated the idea a couple of months ago and enthusiastic acceptances. Gets closer and I start looking for Sunday lunch venues. Pick one, my father says my step mother hates it there and won't come. FFS. So as not to drip feed - DF is disabled, SM is his carer. Which also means that we are v limited in where we can go that can accommodate him easily. I find another pub, message sister and she says no, she doesn't want to travel more than 30 minutes because she's tired and poorly this week. FFS. No help or enthusiasm from anyone.

Find and book another pub. All great. Then last night BIL and SIL pull out - child illness. Obviously not their fault but disappointing nonetheless.

Race round this morning collecting balloons and gifts, eldest DD hasn't slept well apparently and is now refusing to come. To a special joint celebration she's known about for weeks. She's 23 for reference, is home from Uni for a couple of weeks so no other demands on her time.

AIBU to feel pissed off??

Yanbu. It's stressful trying to organise things, especially when noone else seems to care. Just go and enjoy with the people that are there. But it is poor form of the 23 year old not to make an effort for her sister and aunt imo.

yes that would piss me off too. Lesson learnt

I'd be annoyed too. Can you get a lift there and have a double wine on arrival 😄

Oh I'm not driving! Leaving that to DH - who has just had to be reminded to put a shirt on (rather than t-shirt) And he's normally very well dressed.

I'm hiding in the dining room with a glass of Prosecco.

Yes I completely agree. V poor form. But she's 23, I can hardly drag her out of bed or threaten to remove her phone.

Agreed. But you can unplug the WiFi router and take it with you 🤷‍♀️

5G would come to her aid there......

Why are you controlling what your DH wears? Why can't he wear the t-shirt, does it matter that much?

Just do bugger all for her birthday and tell why when she complains (which she will). Sometimes going on strike can be very effective…

Because it's a special occasion and he needs to look smart.

I know, but I would remind her on her birthday of her attitude, if no one wants to bother making any effort back.

Eldest DD is so out of order . It’s her sister’s 18th birthday FFS.

What was so wrong with 1st choice your step mother refused? Could someone else not have supported your dad?

Change your expectations of tonight: you will have built up an image in your head of how this celebration 'should' or 'will' go. Make a conscious effort to abandon that image.
Instead, go with a 'whatever happens will be fine' attitude and just enjoy the company of whoever does turn up.

This....

So very true

Eldest DD is going to have a disappointing 24th birthday.

Did you have a good time in the end @Idonthavemytoolsmycloak ?