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Biggest scam you didn’t know was a scam

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Sillysausage2 · 16/03/2025 02:24

Lighthearted 😂
I saw an Instagram post earlier about the biggest thing you don’t realise is a scam and we all accept as normal.
We all have stories about how our parents raised 7 kids etc in a 3 bed if they were lucky, my grandparents had 9 in a 2 bed 😂
the aim for everyone now is buying or building massive houses, 3 en suites at least, we spend the weekends in Ikea, home bargain etc buying shit we don’t need and cleaning the houses with the 4 bathrooms!
I swear I’ve spent more Time cleaning the legs of chairs than is reasonable and I seem to wash the walls of my bathroom far more than people ever mentioned.
I don’t remember my mother ever cleaning the panelling on the walls.
is it all a scam? Are we busy fools?
sometimes I got to centre Parcs like places and think how simple my life would be if we al only had one suitcase each

OP posts:
medianewbie · 16/03/2025 18:25

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 16/03/2025 08:30

Council Tax.

Yes. Just got my annual bill. £2,694.00 !!!

TheFatCatsWhiskers1 · 16/03/2025 18:27

suburburban · 16/03/2025 18:16

I used to love those catalogues and did buy things, before the internet

I loved them too. My friend was showing me her dad's elderly equivalent of Betterware last week, it was fascinating.

ERthree · 16/03/2025 18:28

MikeRafone · 16/03/2025 11:17

most stuff on temp and TikTok shop - stuff you don't need and will last 5 minutes

bit like the betterware catalogue, full of items you don't need

I did love the betterware catalogue. Bought a veg peeler from there 20 years ago, it is still magnificent.

Mightymoog · 16/03/2025 18:31

Discsareshit · 16/03/2025 18:25

We probably look a bit better with these things than without them though. Otherwise, we'd stop buying them, wouldn't we?

I don't buy them and I genuinely can't see the differencebetween my skin and other peoples'.
I may go as far as to say it may be in better condition.
I don't think they prevent lines at all

Ponderingwindow · 16/03/2025 18:33

It’s not the size of your house with modern appliances and conveniences that makes your life complicated.

my mother, was required to wash every wall in her home once a month as a child. Floor to ceiling scrubbing the walls to get the coal dust off. She hated the chore so much that she talked about it long after they replaced the coal furnace.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 16/03/2025 18:34

Mightymoog · 16/03/2025 18:31

I don't buy them and I genuinely can't see the differencebetween my skin and other peoples'.
I may go as far as to say it may be in better condition.
I don't think they prevent lines at all

Me neither. Wash my face with soap or shower gel and moisturise with Nivea cream, whichever one is cheapest in the shop. My face has yet to fall off and I look pretty much my age, no older. The ONLY thing that I think makes any difference at all to your face is whether or not you wear sunscreen.

Theywerebrilliant · 16/03/2025 18:37

minnienono · 16/03/2025 12:01

Not a scam but we have been sold a “dream” and that reality just isn’t what we were sold. Bigger more expensive houses take more to clean, more to maintain, we need 2 incomes to service the mortgage and bills, less time so have to hire help which comes with more stress of course, kids in a zillion clubs keeping up with the Jones’ etc etc etc.

the simple life of yesteryear was hard work (my grandmother never owned even a washing machine, only a mangle) but I think people were less stressed despite money being a constant worry (think having to wait for the weekly wage packet to arrive home just to be able to afford to buy a loaf of bread to feed the dc, my mum, a simple bread and jam tea). My mum had one school shirt but my grandmother washed it daily drying on the line or in front of the coal stove then ironing it still damp with a coal heated iron to fully dry! Hard life but happy

Jesus Christ, what makes you think they were happy drying a shirt over a single coal? Rose tinted clap trap

lifeonmars100 · 16/03/2025 18:38

Discsareshit · 16/03/2025 18:25

We probably look a bit better with these things than without them though. Otherwise, we'd stop buying them, wouldn't we?

But people still looked fine before there was this endless choice and products sold with crazy promises. It seems that a new mascara is launched almost every other week and the same goes for skin and hair care

Twiglets1 · 16/03/2025 18:38

Theywerebrilliant · 16/03/2025 18:37

Jesus Christ, what makes you think they were happy drying a shirt over a single coal? Rose tinted clap trap

I know - wish I could replace my washing machine with a mangle - NOT

Discsareshit · 16/03/2025 18:38

"I don't buy them and I genuinely can't see the differencebetween my skin and other peoples'."

That's not what you'd have to compare, but the difference between your own skin and hair with and without products.

Discsareshit · 16/03/2025 18:40

lifeonmars100 · 16/03/2025 18:38

But people still looked fine before there was this endless choice and products sold with crazy promises. It seems that a new mascara is launched almost every other week and the same goes for skin and hair care

People on average look a bit younger every generation (mainly due to health advances and less smoking).

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/03/2025 18:40

Mightymoog · 16/03/2025 18:31

I don't buy them and I genuinely can't see the differencebetween my skin and other peoples'.
I may go as far as to say it may be in better condition.
I don't think they prevent lines at all

i agree in that genetics is more important than products. I have hardly any lines, far less than my younger sister, and I am 52 but my grandmother and my aunt were both the same. Neither looked their age, just sheer luck that I got the right gene!

But I do suffer with extremely dry skin, and used all sorts of potions. They helped but fuck me they were so expensive. On a tip from my daughter I bought the primark £4 Hyaluronic acid serum and its brilliant! I use it daily underneath moisturiser (£2 from boots as I discovered that it does the job just as well as the expensive ones) and it has made such a difference. I can touch my face without bits falling off!

So I would say that it isnt always the products themselves that are a scam but the massive price tag.

lifeonmars100 · 16/03/2025 18:43

ERthree · 16/03/2025 18:28

I did love the betterware catalogue. Bought a veg peeler from there 20 years ago, it is still magnificent.

I used to be (sadly) rather happy when I got home from work and a Betterware catalogue had arrived through the letterbox. Used to make a cup of tea and sit down and browse. I never bought the thingy that helped you to do up your bracelets and still think wistfully about it!

LushLemonTart · 16/03/2025 18:43

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/03/2025 18:40

i agree in that genetics is more important than products. I have hardly any lines, far less than my younger sister, and I am 52 but my grandmother and my aunt were both the same. Neither looked their age, just sheer luck that I got the right gene!

But I do suffer with extremely dry skin, and used all sorts of potions. They helped but fuck me they were so expensive. On a tip from my daughter I bought the primark £4 Hyaluronic acid serum and its brilliant! I use it daily underneath moisturiser (£2 from boots as I discovered that it does the job just as well as the expensive ones) and it has made such a difference. I can touch my face without bits falling off!

So I would say that it isnt always the products themselves that are a scam but the massive price tag.

Same it's genetics with me. I'm 57 and get taken for 40s. But I think I'm starting to look more 50s now? I use Argan oil. And wash my face with a good quality soap.

Grammarnut · 16/03/2025 18:47

Regretsmorethanafew · 16/03/2025 14:30

Stop what, exactly?

Running households, looking after children, looking after elderly relatives, cooking, cleaning, bearing childfen, having sex, doing a full-time job and doing all that lot.
Society would last about five minutes without us. So stop.

katycreativa · 16/03/2025 18:49

Working full time, five days a week as an adult and then getting to rest and live your best life when you retire when our bodies are starting to fail us by then, anyway enough to enjoy life and is the reason we're not wanted in the workforce anymore. Also, working in an office over a job that could be done from home.

Mightymoog · 16/03/2025 18:52

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 16/03/2025 18:34

Me neither. Wash my face with soap or shower gel and moisturise with Nivea cream, whichever one is cheapest in the shop. My face has yet to fall off and I look pretty much my age, no older. The ONLY thing that I think makes any difference at all to your face is whether or not you wear sunscreen.

I agree re. the sunscreen but TBH with a lot of stuff coming out that sunscreen could be a lot nastier than we thought I'm glad I've been too lazy to bother!

TitusMoan · 16/03/2025 18:54

Crayfishforyou · 16/03/2025 09:13

Subscriptions. Everything is a monthly payment. It adds up.
Also phone insurance. You used to just insure it, now you have to decide to insure it against damage OR loss or theft or all. And it’s expensive.

Can you recommend a provider please?!

Mightymoog · 16/03/2025 18:54

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/03/2025 18:40

i agree in that genetics is more important than products. I have hardly any lines, far less than my younger sister, and I am 52 but my grandmother and my aunt were both the same. Neither looked their age, just sheer luck that I got the right gene!

But I do suffer with extremely dry skin, and used all sorts of potions. They helped but fuck me they were so expensive. On a tip from my daughter I bought the primark £4 Hyaluronic acid serum and its brilliant! I use it daily underneath moisturiser (£2 from boots as I discovered that it does the job just as well as the expensive ones) and it has made such a difference. I can touch my face without bits falling off!

So I would say that it isnt always the products themselves that are a scam but the massive price tag.

Isn't it crazy that the same basci ingredients can be so wildly differently priced due to packaging/ reputation/ advertising etc. Crazy really.
The ultimate for that has to be tv adverts for perfume!

whatsthatBout · 16/03/2025 18:55

Greenblossom · 16/03/2025 18:18

The loveliness of a wedding bears only some relation to the amount spent on it. One of my favourites was a church wedding with village hall reception which had a (very good) buffet, followed by an ice-cream bicycle and some live music. It was the jolly, friendly atmosphere which made it so special - yes, it was a day with treats and people dressed up, but also relatively informal. That same year we went to one in a huge castle where the seating had tables named after the expensive places the bride and groom had been on holiday. Not nearly as much fun!

Agree with this.

The first wedding still wouldn’t be super ‘cheap’, live entertainment and catering can cost a bit but it would still be a fraction of your typical big white wedding. Yet so many couples would turn their nose up at the idea of a church hall venue.

Nonrienderien · 16/03/2025 18:56

katycreativa · 16/03/2025 18:49

Working full time, five days a week as an adult and then getting to rest and live your best life when you retire when our bodies are starting to fail us by then, anyway enough to enjoy life and is the reason we're not wanted in the workforce anymore. Also, working in an office over a job that could be done from home.

When your self employed running a business is one of the perks of working as long as you wish to go on. My father worked until he was well into his 80s & loved every minute of life. He had regular holidays with my mother. Retirement in your 60s isn't all it's cracked out to be.

Hwi · 16/03/2025 19:06

quantumbutterfly · 16/03/2025 17:50

Don't knock it, it worked for the Middletons.

What worked for the Middletons was being the most efficient and successful stalkers, sorry, strategic planners in the world!

the80sweregreat · 16/03/2025 19:12

Weddings, stag , hen dos, Christmas all of it had become so commercial and just ridiculous really. Best not to buy into the hype!

TortolaParadise · 16/03/2025 19:23

Charging for parking in hospitals.

Umbrella / PAYE

EdithBond · 16/03/2025 19:23

Housework used to be a full-time job for my nan and my mum when I was a young kid.

Laundering clothes took hours with a mangle or twin tub. It was hung damp all over the house, or in front of the fire, in the winter. It was all heavy wool or cotton. Quick drying nylon was a revelation.

Rugs had to be beaten or gone over and over with a crappy sweeper. Floors and steps had to be scrubbed on your hands and knees.

Fireplaces had to cleaned out every time you lit a fire, coal carried in.

Shopping had to be carried home in a wicker basket or string bag. No carrier bags. No convenience foods. No readymade cakes. Everything had to be cooked fresh, as no freezer. Clothes were so expensive, you had to make your own with patterns and a sewing machine or knitted.

Everyone’s fingers must’ve been like sausages from all the hard work.

Cleaning and cooking these days is a breeze. But we have way too much stuff and a desire to constantly buy, replacing perfectly good stuff.

Ladders are a scam. Property ladder. Career ladder. Some people might make it to the top. But if everyone did, the ladder would fall over. Most of us get stuck on a lower rung.