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Have a Dabble

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SkysHedge · 16/03/2025 00:05

My husband thinks our friend would "have a dabble" given the chance. Ie with me. Am I unreasonable to find this totally gross. Apparently he was groping me all night (he wasn't). I told my husband how disgusting it was to suggest our friend was essentially sexually assaulting me and I didn't notice. He was a bit touchy, maybe tapping my shoulder occasionally not that I noticed as he's often a bit like that. Not in a gross way at all and not just with me but with my husband too sometimes as I pointed out. But apparently this means he'd "have a dabble". I feel quite sick but I'm drunk and may be overacting. Sorry but I'm not some piece of meat to be having a "dabble" with and I feel quite grossed out that my husband used this term to suggest our friend who has never behaved inappropriately would even be slightly interested in me in this way. Wtaf???

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ZeldaFighter · 16/03/2025 00:11

Go to bed, get some sleep, sober up and think about it in the morning.

Smokeyblueblack · 16/03/2025 00:12

I've never heard " dabble" used in this way before.
I'm assuming if you're drunk your DH is drunk as well? Perhaps moderating the alcohol might be a good idea for all concerned.

SkysHedge · 16/03/2025 00:16

When I say drunk I don't mean smashed just that we've had a few. And yes I'm going to sleep on it but his choice of phrase has really upset me. I just think it shows a total lack of respect. But I may be overthinking. Men really piss me off sometimes.

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