Friend's weird friend asking her for pictures of me

[PaperwhiteTheFriendlyGhost]

I've got a friend who chats online with men she never meets. The conversation is sexual and involves sharing pictures and videos. She's got several issues.

It's become apparent that one of these people has been asking about me and asking her to send them pictures of me. No nudes of me exist and never will. I'm not certain what he means by "pictures".

She's mentioned me in terms of "Paperwhite and I had a girl night in" sort of thing and they've probably talked like that.

It's weird that a man would ask for pictures of a woman he doesn't know, it's not normal, nor is it normal for her to think it's normal and carry on a "relationship" with them.

I know this because I saw a message thread when she showed me a picture this man had sent (of his dog). Wwyd? Aibu to challenge it? I think I am but I don't want some oddball getting my number.

I think I would be cutting contact with your friend if she is happy to share information and photos of you with strangers.

I would imagine that she’s used you in some kind of girl-on-girl titillation story for one of these creepy losers.

Time to find new friends.

@Smokeyblueblack I don't think she has shared photos of me. I don't think she has any other than group pictures.

I think she's more concerned that these idiots would want to be in touch with me rather than her and that's more of a concern than my privacy.

I've plenty of others!

How would he get your number?

I thought it was photos he was asking for?

either way, of course it’s creepy and uncomfortable. I’d be asking the friend what the he’ll is going on and making it clear you don’t want any photos of you sent to him.

of course you have no idea of knowing if she actually does send them….so I don’t know. 🤷

Asked for both. He could only get my mobile number from her but he could easily find me on the internet if she's told him my full name.

So, when you saw the mesaage as she was showing you the dog
picture, did you not just immediately say to your friend “Why the hell is this man asking for my pics and phone number l?”

If she will share photos it’s not a leap to give him your number. I be distancing myself from her. Up to her if she wants to engage in risky behaviour, but she can’t include you.

No and I should have. I think. It feels like snooping.

Your friend is a nutter. She can do whatever she likes with her life, but it’s absolutely NOT okay to be talking about you to random people.

“friend, have fun doing whatever you’re doing, but please never mention me, my name or share any photos of me.”

I'd be making a point loud and clear to this friend.

"going back to our conversation the other day and I wanted to make it absolutely clear, do not ever share my personal details with any of these guys you talk to online, don't share my personal details, pictures, name, and definitely dont share my pictures or phone number"

Oh I would never

Good, make sure you don't.