I feel like I’ve got the balance completely wrong and now I won’t get the time back that I’ve missed.
My children are 4 and 2. I’m self employed and my work involves some evening work. I can pick and choose how much to take on but financial reasons have meant I’ve worked a bit more in the evenings than I have in the past.
This has meant that my husband has been doing most of the bedtimes in recent months. I’d say on average I do 3 per week and he does 4 maybe 5.
Tonight my youngest asked for his dad rather than me to read him his story and it’s just broken me. I feel so so sad and guilty that he didn’t want me. He’s obviously used to his dad doing bedtime more and wanted that familiarity over me.
Have I let me kids down? I’m worried I’ll look back on these times when they’re grown up and regret missing out on bedtimes. I also have been doing loads of DIY and gardening recently so feel like I’ve been distracted and not giving enough attention 😔
AIBU - don’t feel guilty or sad, the kids are fine and happy
YANBU - do feel guilty and do something to change the current set up. Your kids aren’t getting enough of you