Constant arguing because I word things wrong

[Wellthatwasalogday82]

Dh and I barely talk and that because every time I open my mouth DH moans about how I have worded something or I have aid something wrong or answered a question not how I expect an answer. It is draining.

Today's example. Dh is making lunch. Asked I wanted a roll and what in it. I said I wanted some cheese, just sliced not grated. I then added I can it if you want (as he keeps moaning i don't do anything - thata a whole different story)

Blew up and went mad as apparently that's me saying he's not capable, and I should have said would you like me to help and do it?

Other examples, if he asks if I want a drink and I reply with squash please, that's not the answer as I should just say yes and then he'll ask what I want.

I'm so tired from it all

I'm sorry OP, but trying to 'get it right' with this man is like trying to push water uphill with a bloody fork !

It won't matter how you word anything, ever, he'll always say you've done it 'wrong'.

Better to ask yourself ;

1. Who bloody decided that only HIS opinions/methods/thoughts are 'right'?
2. Why the hell you think that it's somehow up to you to 'change' or 'improve' to suit his bloody 'mood'?
3. What does he actually bring to your life except grief??
4. Why are you actually going along with the shit he says? Just say 'fuck off'!
5. If you can't ever communicate to his 'standards', why the hell hasn't everyone in your life said the same as him? (Cos it's bollocks obvs!)

Seriously, he's just bringing you daily bloody misery and upset.

Just imagine how much better you'll feel when he is no longer in your life...

He's treating you with contempt. Do you have children - does he have them walking on eggshells too?

One possibility is the two of you have been in a rut annoying each other for so long that everything is starting to become a passive aggressive dig at the other.

Him offering to make you a roll and then you being like “I can make it if you want” ( and you saying you only said that because of an earlier argument where he said you don’t do anything)- I can see that as a dig at him because your motivation for saying it wasn’t genuine, but a tit for tat because of an earlier argument.

The squash thing sounds like him doing a passive aggressive dig at you.

This kind of dynamic is draining, if you two can’t make an effort to stop policing how you say the most basic things and stop adding in passive aggressive digs of “I can do it” when one of you is trying to do an act of kindness this will destroy the relationship.

I’ve never said LTB on here, but this is an exception. I couldn’t live like that. He sounds like a sad, angry man.
If you don’t have children with him, getting rid now would likely be a good move.
If you have children, I don’t know what I’d do. Avoid him as much as possible and create as much as a life as you can out of the house so that his part in your life becomes smaller and less significant.

Life is too short for this kind of pettiness

The only answer you need is: Yes - stop talking to me like this otherwise we are getting divorced!

The only answer this man would get from me would start and end with an F.

Raise your bar @Wellthatwasalogday82. You can do better and be happier alone.

First post nails it

Leave him. This won’t improve. He’s a manipulative cunt and you deserve better.

You know he's a nasty bullying prick and abusing you?
Contact Women's aid asap.

You can't do right for doing wrong.

It must be exhausting trying to constantly police what you are about to say so that it doesn't set him off.

He sounds utterly unbearable.

Voted wrong way because of sausage fingers. You're definitely not BU.

He's a manipulative, argumentative twat.

You’re being emotionally abused. He will always ensure you are in the wrong.

God he sounds exhausting! I don't think I'd bother speaking to him at all 🙄 is this really how you want to spend your one precious life OP?

He’s a first class DICK !
Fuck him away off out of your life ( excuse my language)
What does he bring to a decent relationship
Absolutely Zero ..
Aside from being a controlling tosser , He’s such a weirdo , All guys like that are just weirdo’s , getting off on shit like that , trying to make you feel as though there is something wrong with you when it’s them that aren’t normal humans …