am furious with my mother worlds worst mother ever

[lins1uk]

im so mad with my mother
she has been seeing a bloke on and off for ages now who in my eyes and all family is a real LOSER he takes speed!doesnt work and cant even get parental responsibility of his daughter because they say he isnt a fit father!
hes cheated on my mother 4 times with two diffrent women whom have harrased my mum and vandalised her car!
he gets with these women and tells my mum he doesnt want her anymore and never did and he loves whoever now and then after comes crawling back because she gives him money for his habit!at the moment my mum is living with her parents with my sister and has been there since her last relashionship broke up and now is talking about moving in with that LOSER now i couldnt care less about my mother moving in with him but theres no way i want my sister being around someone who takes drugs plus i dont trust him around her he seems a bit of a perv,
she only 11 and she is so confused thinking no one cares about her as my mother is always going out and leaving her with my nan and grandad she cant wait to get rid of her saying she does her head in!
i have told my nan that if she moves in with him theres no way my sister is going or i will report her to social services do you think im being unreasonable? sorry for the long moan

Not at all.

Would you be willing to take your sister in? It might be worth reporting her anyway if you feel strongly enough because where ever your mum lives it's not a good, stable life for your sister. I think your sister needs to come first in all of this, your mum is an adult and is making her own decisions and if she gets hurt at the end of the day she knew what she was getting herself into, your sister has no control over anything and could end up getting hurt. I think she is fortunate to have a sister like you who cares.

yes i have always said im here if she needs me and she can come and live here tbh she would be better off here anyway i have a settled stable family home my kids will never have to go through any of the crap my sister going through i just feel so bad for her.no child deserves to be unsettled like that.

What an awful situation lins1uk, yanbu.
Hope the waste of space bloke buggers off soon and your mum sees sense.

was your mum like this when you were growing up?

YANBU - what an awful situation.

you are not being unreasonable at all it sounds like your mum is only thinking of herself and not your little sister. Thank goodness you are looking out for her is it possible she can come and live with you now, it sounds like that would be in her best interests

she was the same when i was growing up out all the time ect but then she settled down with my sisters dad but when they split up she became like this.

YANBU, hugs.

My mother was like this for a long time... She neglected me and caused a great deal of chaos in our family. Could you take care of your little sister for a while? I think she'd be much better off with you.