Neighbours parcel still here after 6 days

[TheTealBee]

AIBU we have relatively new neighbours, a young couple who both work full time. They seem pleasant, we pass the time of day with then when we see them. The problem is they get a lot of parcels delivered, on average twice a week which we take in for them which is not a problem but they don't come and get them! We used to take them round to them or he would come and get them. I am getting a bit fed up with this and don't think I should have to deliver to them. We now have a parcel sitting in our hall that has been there for 6 days. I checked with the delivery driver he had told them the parcel was with us and it is from Amazon and I know they will have been notified where it is. I don't want to cause any problems and we did tell him last time we had a huge parcel for 5 days! What should we do?

We had a parcel in our hall for a good week, when I saw the neighbours I reminded them and they did not have a clue we had it so I never assume.
I will take parcels for people because one day I might need help. Always best to be on good terms with the neighbours.

Good manners is dependent on social norms so the norm in your neighbourhood would be rude in mine.

In my neighbourhood, it's considered good manners not to disturb the person who took the parcel in and let them deal with it in their own time. We all had small dc when we moved in initially so that was presumably the reason and it's just continued that way.

I only take in for my immediate next door neighbours both sides , I have their numbers so usually text I have a parcel, would you like to collect or shall I drop round ? I’ve had what you’re describing before though and ended up with a huge mattress in my tiny front room for over a week . Never again, simply refused.
I just wouldn’t take a parcel in future .

It’s all very well saying to just take around in but
often this is very one sided, with one neighbour constantly having parcels delivered and expecting their neighbour to look after it and bring it in.

These days virtually all delivery companies tell you when a parcel has been delivered, often with a photo. If I get a parcel that isn’t mine I leave it outside for the person to collect. Then there’s no need to disturb etc. They’re not disturbing me nor me them. If they don’t come and collect it then eventually it becomes mine.

@1apenny2apenny If I get a parcel that isn’t mine I leave it outside for the person to collect.
This is really weird behaviour. Why accept the deliver and then leave the parcel outside??

Don't take any more in and stick what you have up in the loft until they come to collect them.

Refuse further parcels.
I wouldn't tolerate this for a minute.
Your hall is not there for their convenience.
This is really rude behaviour.
No good deed and all that.

Either refuse to take it or leave it on the doorstep. If you've knocked with parcels in the past, sometimes more than once and they CBA'd collecting from you, that's what I'd do.

Shortly after my neighbours moved in, I missed a delivery and a parcel was left at theirs! I don't think my elderly neighbour was happy about taking a parcel in but it's never happened again! If someone doesn't want to accept a parcel for a neighbour for whatever reason, they can refuse.

I think parcel “accepting” has changed from an occasional occurrence to daily shopping for some people. And of course the folks who order everything are the ones who need someone else to get their parcels. I have had expensive items delivered on a later date than promised and neighbor collected from my house but never would order regularly with my neighbor as my acceptor. I hate clutter especially other peoples shit so that would not work for me to store anything other than a small Amazon box for a few hours. Also you are accepting and then also delivering to them? Yea that’s too much. Op this particular young couple who primarily shop online need to set up a safe spot and it’s not you despite your willingness to be a good neighbor

I don’t accept the delivery 🥴. If I went to the door and it wasn’t for me I wouldn’t accept it. Normally I find they knock and run and just leave it on the doorstep.

Stop accepting there parcels if you don’t like it

First you drop this package over to them, don’t leave it outside their door.

Secondly refuse to accept anymore of their packages at the door if they try to deliver to you.

Drop it off at 6am and ring the door bell loudly several times?

I WFH so get to take in a lot of parcels (which can be annoying) but my neighbours all come round and pick up promptly.

I doubt they are purposely getting their packages delivered to the OP’s address. The courier service will make the decision to try a neighbour if they aren’t home. I would be mortified if they kept delivering them to my neighbour.

Why would you be a knob about it though? They are pleasant neighbours, just don’t accept any further deliveries for them.

I was wondering how on earth your entire neighbourhood agree a consensus that it's rude/polite to behave in a certain way re: deliveries when you then wrote that it was "presumably" from the days when people had young children and might not want to be disturbed.
So, you're making it up then? And assuming that's what all your neighbours think?

Put a note on your door "sorry, I cannot take in parcels for neighbours"

I'm amazed that you're asked to. I can't remember the last time that a parcel wasn't just left on my doorstep. They don't even knock, so they have no idea whether I'm on or not, a lot of the time.

If they're Amazon parcels, I imagine that the neighbours have ticked 'deliver to neighbour' in their preferences for delivery if they're out. It's also an option with royal mail.

Just stop taking the parcels in. I don't think I have been asked to take in a neighbours parcel since before Covid. Round here they just leave it on your doorstep.

I wasn’t sure which way to vote. I voted YABU, on the basis of yabu to continue taking in parcels instead of refusing.

I don't really understand the issue. Just leave it outside their door? Amazon do that all the time.

If they're out Monday - Friday approx 8-6 they need to use an Amazon locker.

This is one of those threads where the answer is obvious and doesn't need to be agonised over:
Leave the parcel on their doorstep.
Stop accepting parcels for them.
Problems solved.

I’m really surprised that one poster said that in her area it is the norm for the person who takes in the parcel to then deliver it to the owner. That the owner would worry that calling for their parcel would disturb the person. The person who took the parcel in has already been disturbed by the delivery guy and then has a cardboard box cluttering up their home.

If collecting the parcel could be a disturbance then taking the parcel to them could also be a disturbance. It’s utter bollocks.

That's quite a stretch on your part.

No, I'm not making it up. We are a small street (10 houses). If anyone gets a parcel for someone else, they deliver it, rather than waiting for the intended recipient to collect it. You would occasionally get someone calling to collect and they tend to be very apologetic and say that they hope they are not disturbing you.

I was responding to the person who said it was good manners to collect and I was pointing out that is not the case in all neighbourhoods and that manners are dependent on social norms.

I really don't understand why so many posters on here struggle up understand that not everyone is the same as them or that things aren't done the same way everywhere.

I have no problem delivering a parcel to my neighbours. They do the same for me. It's always been that way. But then we actually get on with our neighbours and are quite friendly with them all.

Thanks everyone for your advice, I will take the parcel to them tomorrow and ask they pick up any future parcels as soon as they can or I won't be accepting any more. I am on very good terms with all my neighbour's, I just don't know these very well. I have no objections to taking in the parcels it is them leaving them for a week that is the problem.