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To find this woman's attitude entitled

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Womansplainer · 14/03/2025 18:07

I work a tiny amount of hours in a local government office which works for me as the mom of a send kid.

My management is external and comes over once a month for meetings and a supervision.

I have been given an office to work from which is paid for by the local govt as my role benefits them. It is one desk and room for a few people to have a meeting at a squeeze. There's definitely not room for two people in there to work.

After my supervision, I was going off to lunch and said I'm going for lunch, she said 'ill just do these emails' I said I'll be back in half an hour.

I got back in half an hour and she was on a teams call. I went off, half hour later she was still on a teams call, then I went back in another 20 minutes and walked in.....

In the end after losing over an hour waiting for her to get out of my desk space I had to go in and tell her I needed to work.

She then said 'oh so you need to work do you?'

Given that we had just had supervision and talked through my workload which is much much bigger than time allows, and my projects are work that she has put time pressures on, I'm annoyed.

After this she distributed a draft document to the whole team which I have given her just to look at. The document wasn't mine, it's a work in progress. She also had no real understanding of the area of our sector and will talk 'at' me in a way that feels like she's dumping whatever is in her head one. I have had to say to her, I'm really sorry, I can't take on all that you are saying to me please can we keep this focussed.

I don't know if I'm being awful but I'm finding this woman tiresome.

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Lost20211 · 14/03/2025 18:19

Nope. She sounds like an arsehole. Maybe she’s jealous that you have an office??

Anyway, I’d start a record of things she says/does to you as it’s beginning to sound like bullying. Don’t keep the record on your work PC. Maybe email incidents to your personal email. Record date, time, if anyone witnesses anything. You got a union?

Womansplainer · 14/03/2025 20:34

Lost20211 · 14/03/2025 18:19

Nope. She sounds like an arsehole. Maybe she’s jealous that you have an office??

Anyway, I’d start a record of things she says/does to you as it’s beginning to sound like bullying. Don’t keep the record on your work PC. Maybe email incidents to your personal email. Record date, time, if anyone witnesses anything. You got a union?

Thanks. It doesn't feel like bullying. Just utter ignorance. She came in a few months ago and asked to use an interview room for a 'quick meeting'. The admin staff offered her a space and she stay d all afternoon.

I had to email her and remind her that the interview rooms are bookable and part of revenue and you can't just use them. She said 'well I thought we were working collaboratively'

She also had some free resources from a colleagues project and had to be reminded that everyone's projects cost to deliver.

I'm definitely going to keep an eye on it

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