DD is 9, she has lots of sensory sensitivities. She's diagnosed autistic as of last year. Mainstream school and academic.
She has lots of clothing preferences that seem a bit unusual due to needing additional proprioceptive input e.g. wearing clothes very tight. Only wearing school jumpers in age 5-6. Pulling the velcro on her shoes super tight.
She's broken another pair of shoes today by pulling the strap too tight (but will only accept cheap supermarket trainers). She's gone to school this morning wearing one of her preferred shoes, and one from another pair that she initially rejected. She won't wear both of the rejected pair at once as she says they're uncomfortable. But has said she's happy to wear one of each...
They're not overly dissimilar and many people might not notice unless it was pointed out. I'm frustrated though as she made such a fuss about not wearing the rejected pair at the time but now can somehow wear one of each? I'd have thought that'd feel worse surely?
So, do I:
"You are not being unreasonable" = leave her wearing odd shoes until she grows into the next size up (of the preferred shoes, which we have in the cupboard waiting to go as she's so particular usually).
Or
"You are being unreasonable" = go and buy another pair of preferred shoes in her current size, and stop her from wearing odd shoes.
(Please don't suggest she just wears the rejected pair together, I've tried this, it's not worth it)
Thanks.