To feel insecure and a bit cross that my DPs client is really pretty.............

[lucyellensmum]

confident and a fitness freak......and always fucking well THERE!!

Yes, well i suppose it does sound a bit pathetic when you read it back, im sure she is very nice too (makes it worse really!). He has been mentioning that she does lots of fitness etc. I found out today that she is really lovely looking too . No wonder DP has been making loads of negative comments about my weight lately. I trust him 100% actually, but i can't help but get the feeling he wishes i was more like her as i have let myself go lately. He has taken a sudden interest in his own fitness too It just sort of brings it home to me how much i have let go of myself lately. DP saw a picture of me when i was much younger the other day - DD was looking too (2.5) and he said to her, "thats the girl i fell in love with" [shcok] i felt like screaming yes, and she is sitting right fucking well here

for you LEM.

Never mind what she looks like, as long as she PAYS for your dhs professional skills.

I am possibly talking out of my foot here, speaking from somebody who used to be pretty good looking, and have let myself go, I think you would feel a lot better about yourself if you got more active.

I have joined a gym, now all I need to do is actually go there.

she cold be a super-fecking-model-with-killer-abs-glossy-hair BUT she Aint you so dont sweat it

My OH is the same, its a real confidence boost isnt it .

We had sex last on Feb 12th of this year, I know the date because it was the same date as my 6 week post-natal check.

He says he still loves me but he dosent like fat he's not telling me something I don't know, I have put on 5 stone since we first met.

ss no offense but your OH sounds mean

ss no offense but your OH sounds mean

He's not mean he's telling the truth I have gotten bigger, alot bigger, I was a trim thing when we met, I'm not now, he's not saying it horribly, he just says he don't like the feel of it and it dosent turn him on. He still loves me but the fat dosent do anything for him.
I'd rather not have sex, than thinking he's close to puking when we do.

Sorry OP I wasnt helping was I.

There is always going to be someone, better, prettier, slimmer than us.

TBH the thinner, prettier people are more shallow .

I bet she's got 11 toes or something

wow that seems really odd to me not meaning to offend you obvously, but i would hope my DP loved me for me, not for my looks, i have also gained weight and my DP still loves me and is attracted to me, so this seems very alien to me, it would also make me question who was meeting his sexual needs.

I once read something that Trisha Goddard said in relation to a similar situation which I found useful. It was "Aim to be the best YOU that you can be". That doesn't mean comparing yourself with X,Y or Z - more that if you know you could do a little bit more to become your best version of "you". It's a positive approach and takes the sting out of the I'm-not-as-pretty-or-slim depressing train of thought (I have had this myself and really sympathise with you, it feels crap).

Also - funnily enough just the sight of me putting on my trainers had DH (then DP) thinking I was all fit and healthy and he was getting all admiring. Little did he know I was off to the gym cafe for a good old nosh and reading of magazines . Emporers new clothes.

WiiMii - Well i would only have to assume she doesn't ROTFL

I have a cold too, so feel all grotty and greasy haired - arrrrghhhhhh, and certainly not up for any back door shinanigins either.

The thing is, we are both overweight, and i think he thinks its OK to comment on my weight and lack of fitness because he is similar, but he is a man and too me, still as sexy and gorgeous as the day we met - more even. But its NEVER ok to say these things to a woman (especially one as insecure as me) no matter how close you are - are they?