To never trust a man who starts a sentence with “All due respect?”

[NimblePoster]

Because, let’s be honest, nothing respectful ever follows. It’s basically a polite way of saying, I’m about to patronise you, but I want to sound civil while doing it.

It’s right up there with “No offence, but…” and “Let me play devil’s advocate.” Every time I hear it, I brace myself for condescension.

AIBU to think this phrase is just a red flag for someone who’s about to dismiss your opinion while pretending to be polite?

And it is only men who do this...?

My thoughts exactly.

I use the expression myself, specifically when I am conveying to someone that the respect 'due' to them is in fact none. 😂

With all due respect, plenty of women do it too.

Not to be the devil's advocate, but isn't this is a well-documented way of disagreeing? And - shock horror - for both sexes?

Yes. I only use that phrase with I’m full of contempt.

In fact I seem to recall saying to one particular male manager when he was trying to tell me something I clearly knew was bollocks....

"With all due respect John, I have vinyl older than you"

Went down like a bucket of cold sick, but it gave me joy.

I hear this much more often from women.

Of course I wouldn't trust him. He'd be a fool because the phrase is 'with all due respect...'
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Yeah, he’s not even patronising correctly.

It's what you say to someone when they're being a knobhead.

Just to politely let them know you think they're being a knobhead.

Can we trust a woman who does this? Or are we doing misandry again?

Obviously fine if a woman says it 🙄

It's a bit like 'kindly' and 'gently' by way of an introduction; it means nothing. The other party will tell from the words and tone of voice how kind, gentle or respectful the speaker is being. On the whole though, it's a bad sign, though not as bad as 'I'm not a racist but...'

How about I'm.not being nasty but.....

I'm not trying to be a sexist twat but...

I would never trust a woman who for some reason thinks that phrases used by men and women are only ever a red flag when used by men.

My favourite red flag phrase is 'I just say it as it is.'

People who say this are usually very rude and often don't have the mental capability to understand that their way is not gospel and other people are entitled to thoughts and opinions.

I'm a woman and I say this.

Yes, and rarely seem able to open their ears and 'listen to it like it is' in return