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Feel intimidated by new neighbour

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Ionasmum19 · 11/03/2025 21:33

I live in an owned property and the house joined on to us belongs to the council. We have recently got a new neighbour who we believe to be a drug dealer due to activity at odd times at night, including multiple cars coming and going after midnight etc. We have made complaints to the council and also crimestoppers but nothing has happened. I was out in my back garden at the weekend hanging out washing and he came out and consistently said my name over and over again until I acknowledged him, which freaked me out a bit as I don't know how he knows my name, as he is not a local man. He didnt speak once I turned to him either, he just looked at me. Our DD has additional needs too and I'm feeling increasingly intimidated by our neighbour, and don't feel safe being at home alone or just with DD when my DH isn't here. Am I overreacting or should I continue to chase the council? Apologies for the long post!

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HagsRule · 11/03/2025 22:01

I don't have any advice other than to try and avoid him as much as possible.

If he starts threatening you then yes, I'd report it.

AlloaintheMiddle · 11/03/2025 22:18

Just report him again and again until something is done.

Start by taking notes of all the incidents, time of the day, a short description of the situation, what he said or did.

You might never need it but if things escalate this record will be very handy.

Don’t dismiss your feelings, it is not normal to call a neighbour you don’t know, by their name, over the fence.

putitdown356 · 11/03/2025 22:23

If im honest I wouldn't have said anything to council, I would have ignored activities and kept polite and distant.

Sounds like he knows its you that complained? Chances of council serving him notice are very slim.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 11/03/2025 22:27

Get a camera at the front and back of your house if you don't already have them.

graceinspace999 · 11/03/2025 22:28

Just say hello and treat him as though you know nothing. Don’t let him think you reported him.

Maybe he was saying your name to greet you and repeated it in case you hadn’t heard him.

Anotherparkingthread · 11/03/2025 22:45

Why did you report him?

I grew up in some shit holes and honestly don't make yourself or your daughter target. The police won't do anything. If they do it will be a slap on the wrist.

Namenamchange · 11/03/2025 23:04

Just be really friendly with him, don’t ignore him, say hi, and make a plan to move. Don’t make any more complaints. It’s not right, but he won’t get moved on by the council.

Chiseltip · 11/03/2025 23:43

Well your first mistake was to make an official complaint. You'll never sell your house now, you'll have to disclose the complaint to potential buyers.

Mog65 · 12/03/2025 08:49

Been in similar. Stop reporting him. Shit I know. Say hello, pleasantries but don't get involved. Just get on with your life. Get cctv cameras, just to cover your property. Crap living like that but don't let him bother you.

NotThisShitAgain121 · 01/06/2025 20:36

Keep a diary of everything get a ring door bell as well.. He sounds like a nut job.

BlueandPinkSwan · 14/06/2025 11:03

Chiseltip · 11/03/2025 23:43

Well your first mistake was to make an official complaint. You'll never sell your house now, you'll have to disclose the complaint to potential buyers.

OP might have to disclose it but it's hardly a major deal. All property will sell if the price is right even complete shit holes, because some people don't care about their neighbours behaviour.
If she feels threatened or actually threatened then of course she should involve the police.

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