Sex life

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So I have a 2 year old on a waiting list for SEN who I love to bits but is also draining with a partner who works 5 days a week when I don’t ever get a break unless it’s for a quick wee. My partner comes home from work and starts rubbing himself thinks it’s turning me on but I find it disgusting it’s a total put off (this doesn’t happen in front of my child btw) but is still annoying when he gets home from work I still don’t get a break instead he will just sit on the sofa and that will be it no help whatsoever. When I finally get the little one off to bed ALONE he starts making sexual comments when I’m tired at this point just want to be left alone from being clinged on by my two year old. Anyways time for bed eventually and he starts touching me when I just want to sleep. I don’t have a sex drive it’s not the same anymore. Now he’s in a mood with me and now I feel bed for not just laying there and taking it just to avoid a bad mood.

Have you told him why you're too tired for sex? You haven't mentioned talking to him about it at all.

When I try to talk to him he always takes it personal and it ends in an argument. Just now I tried to speak to him on the phone and it escalated to him getting angry telling me if you don’t like it leave and to me in tears

But op - leaving this relationship sounds like it would make your life much more pleasant? I'm not sure it's a bad suggestion.

Is it his child?

Well he’s right. You can leave. I certainly would!

What is your housing/financial situation? You don’t have to live like this.

Why don’t you get a job and put your child in nursery for a few days a week? Being stuck at home all the time, with no break, sounds monotonous and exhausting. You might feel more like having sex if you feel like a person, not just a mum.

He does sound repellent though!

Yeah she’s our daughter and I have thought about it so many times but I think about her and her relationship with him and I don’t want to be the one to blame for breaking our family up

I have no money and we rent the house we are in so I wouldn’t even know where to start

Yeah she’s our daughter

It didn't sound like it from your post. If you want to stay together then maybe you need to be more assertive.
When he sits on the sofa, tell him to look after his own daughter while you get a break/ go for a bath/ whatever.
Sounds like you need to let or make him take on more of the load.

By getting a job?

'Break up a family' is such drivel op. It doesn't even make sense. Sure if you had a happy family with a father who participated in life with you all, and was pleasant to his wife - then yes, you could consider the impact leaving would have on children. But you don't have that. You have a misogynistic 'partner' who treats you like an appliance and ignores his daughter. It would be fabulous to break up this.

My DP put the laundry on with a timer.. without being asked... and it was the best foreplay in years! Sex / romance / intimacy starts outside of the bedroom.