DD pretending to be older online

[allbuttroubled1]

I have found out that My dd (13) is pretending to be older (20+) online. she doesn't go into adult meaning porn etc spaces but I realised that she has been lying about her age to get friends and is presenting as much older. I don't know what she gains by doing this but I am very puzzled by it. Does this count as catfishing?
I've confiscated her phone to scrutinise it for now... AIBU for everything?

She probably fails to make an effort with real life connections because she has her fake internet life to fall back on and is thinking about it constantly.

Stop the internet access for her full stop. No phone, iPad, computer. Go cold turkey.

You have to put the effort in to change this now before it’s too late and you’ve created a reclusive, lying adult.

Speak to her school, get the help and support she needs there and be more present with her yourself.

Play board games in the evening, watch movies, paint your nails together, craft. Anything that isn’t the internet and where you can bond and talk together.

Sign her up for Girl Guides or another local club.

Read the book ‘the anxious generation’ @allbuttroubled1. a lot of what you say is covered in there especially about building friendships and how online activity is reducing ability to learn social skills. You need to learn to make real friends and it’s hard for a reason! If she doesn’t move beyond finding it so hard she cannot do it, life will be very hard for her. I think there’s some great advice on this thread x