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Privacy for 8 year old dgs

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Allthenameshavegone1972 · 11/03/2025 02:18

Our dgs always has a shower at his own house & his perfectly capable of looking after himself & taking himself off to bed.
When he stays with us he still wants a bath at night & still quite likes dh to be in the bathroom with him so they can have water pistol fights. Obviously my dh is not in the bath with him! He is 8. Is this still appropriate for my dh to be in the bathroom with him? When he's with us we don't want to make him think bodies are something to be ashamed of, but at the same time he should be learning to have personal boundaries & privacy regarding his own body.
After having 2 children of our own you'd think we'd know the answer to this, but after 30 years we can't remember what age our own dc stopped this. I think they probably had more privacy by now.

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Thedogscollar · 11/03/2025 02:22

Your gs seems happy and comfortable so I'd go with how he is feeling and take your lead from him. He sounds like he's having great fun with GD.
He will let you know even he's outgrown this.

MinnieMountain · 11/03/2025 06:26

It’s fine. Over the last year our 11yo DS has moved from asking to chat whilst he’s in the bath to always shutting the bathroom door.

PurpleThistle7 · 11/03/2025 07:02

My son is 8 and runs around the house naked still. My daughter didn't care at 8 and then cared intensely by 10 so there will be a switch sometime soon. As long as you're following his lead I think it's fine.

DateComing · 11/03/2025 07:06

Sounds fine. But why not check with his parents rather than MN?

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 11/03/2025 07:08

I think it should be child led.

ScottBakula · 11/03/2025 07:25

I agree with pp , if he is still happy to have you and/ or his GD around while he is in the bath it's fine.
It will help strengthen the bond between you all.

Also ( with his DM/DD agreement) perhaps it would be a good time for his DG to explain that his body will start changing and, keeping it very lightweight, tell him that he can come to either one of you if he has any concerns.
I know he could speak to his DPs but sometimes kids want another person to talk to about personal stuff.

Allthenameshavegone1972 · 14/03/2025 17:49

Thank you for all of your replies. Yes @DateComing I did ask my dd, but I wanted other people's opinions too.

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