AIBU for not letting my 12 year old have TIktok & Snapchat yet?

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I'd like to know if you think I'm being unreasonable for not letting my 12 year old have Tiktok and Snapchat. I'd rather she was a little older but she constantly asks for it and it is hard as all of her friends have it.

Each to their own, but I personally don't like these apps. I feel the majority of content on Tiktok is brain rot and whilst I know she is resilient, I still don't want her exposed to some of the garbage out there. I have an issue with disappearing messages on Snapchat - although not sure if that is still a feature as I don't use it. My main concern is lack of parental control. Perhaps someone could suggest a way of making it safer if such a thing exists?

YABU - I am worrying for nothing, just let her have the apps.
YANBU - I have good reason to protect her for as long as possible.

Thank you.

I am 100% with you. I feel strongly my DDs shouldn’t have either of them but also do feel bad they are one of the few who don’t.

My eldest child tries to guilt me by saying they don’t get to talk to anyone cos they aren’t on Snapchat and I think to myself a good friend would use WhatsApp to message you so they can’t really be someone you really want to be friends with anyway.

YADNBU. The amount of bullying that goes on via Snapchat at my kid's school is terrifying. (Obviously bullying can happen in many ways, but this seems to be particularly insidious, and avoided by not having the app). And that's before all the other things I don't like about it - disappearing messages, being able to see locations of your friends, the possibility of strangers being able to contact you.

OP I don't know what sort of phones your family have and what parental controls you use, but I was completely unaware that with Android, all the parental controls disappear when the child turns 13 (or at least the child gets the option to turn them off). I know people who have altered their child's DOB to delay that moment....

Thanks everyone, appreciate the replies and votes X