Would you be annoyed about this?

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My DP was meant to pick me up from train station at 11.30pm last night. Confirmed this at 9.30pm. I sent a text that I was on the train and then phoned when I arrived at the station, no reply since 9.30pm. So I was waiting at train station wondering what to do, end up getting a taxi home after having to wait in a half an hour queue and pay £20 for it. He'd fallen asleep after we confirmed arrangements. So technically not his fault but just made me feel like he doesn't really give a shit about me leaving me standing in the dark? Am I unreasonable to be a bit annoyed today?

YANBU

Technically it is totally his fault! I would be really really pissed off!!!

OMG, no, YANBU!
If he isn’t falling over himself to apologise today, you need to have strong words!

YANBU.

He knew he was meeting you, he knew what time he'd be meeting you. He should have set an alarm or a reminder on Alexa and his phone should have been handy with the ringer switched on.

Well yes I’d be annoyed, but at the end of the day these things happen. I’d be over it by morning.

Was it a genuine once off mistake or is the issue that you actually think he just doesn’t respect you or care about you in general, and this is an example of that in action?

Let me guess that he has form for this sort of thing….

Was he horrified that he forgot? Did he apologise?

Considering train stations aren't the safest places to be at 11.30pm at night, especially for a woman by herself, I think he's shown a total lack of care and concern for your safety. Let alone the disrespect of letting you down re arrangements arranged and confirmed.

It was 100% his fault, there is no technical get out at all.

So he definitely knew and had agreed to pick you up at 11.30? But then fell asleep?

Thats ridiculous! He's an adult, he should have made sure he was going to be awake to pick you up, since thats what had been agreed. If he was at risk of falling asleep, he should have set an alarm.

I’d be annoyed. It’s not hard to set an alarm in case you fall asleep.

As it happens, I told my DH my train would arrive at 11:37pm on Friday. It wasn’t a lift situation but he waited up to make sure I got home safely anyway.

Yes I'd be annoyed. Unless he was mortified and very apologetic, I'd probably let it go if I felt he understood it wasn't great.

What a turd

I’d be fuming 😡

These things happen. If he's apologetic and a good partner generally, I'd let it go.
I'd think twice before depending on him in these situations again though, which probably isn't ideal for the relationship!

He could have set an alarm. Was he apologetic?

A boyfriend did similar years ago. I'd flown into Heathrow from a 30hr flight! No sign of him at the airport and when I got through, he was still in bed- a 2hr drive away! We've been married 20yrs now, so not all bad.

Yes it is his fault. If i was picking someone up late i’d set an alarm.

He's done it once before a few years ago where he lost track of time at a friend's house and left me standing in the dark and cold for literal hours so I guess it is throwing me back to that and not being able to rely on him. I like my sleep as much as anyone but just can't imagine doing that to him!

So what’s he said this morning OP?

I'd definitely be pissed off but my deeper feelings about it would depend on how he reacted when he woke up and whether he has form for this.