hi, please no nasty comments, I’m just wondering why someone would of done this/ someones insight
a month ago I met this man & we met for the first time as a group with two friends. He knew one of the friends already (man) so that broke the ice. Things happened quite fast like he was telling me he loved me before our second and proper date. I’ve had horrendous experiences with men in the past so I didn’t get too invested but was very open to seeing where things went and I suppose I did like him quite a fair bit. However, things changed. Quite early on, he kept cancelling plans sometimes a day in advance saying he would be tired like he could predict the future. He cancelled on me twice and the last time I saw him I went to his for some drinks in his garden- the original plan was to stay late and have a fire in the garden with a Chinese takeaway but he randomly said he was knackered and wanted me to go soon. We quarrelled over these issues and he seemed apologetic at first so I said I was sorry for nagging and I just cared- a month in for all this Agro, I know! The final straw was when last night it was arranged and suggested by him for me him and my best friend to go for karaoke night at our local bar. When he texted me earlier that day after I said”can’t wait to see you tonight xxxx” he just point blank said he couldn’t do it. I opened the message and left it as I didn’t want to fight and men just don’t respond to reasoning it seems. I was not aggressive I just left him to it. He then kept sending me messages throughout the day gaslighting me for not opening his. Two included “why you moody for” & my personal favourite “is this really how it’s going to go?”
I ignored them and had a lovely night with my mate. Then around 1am he was sending me paragraphs saying I didn’t care about him & that he wants me more than I want him. I calmly told him I was sick of him letting me down and then he sent messages saying I couldn’t deal with plan changes, basically putting the blame on me and the usual script of how he hopes I find someone that can give me what I want. There’s been no contact since then but what I find interesting is a day after that, he’s gone online on a dating app where we met and blocked me off it, he’s also constantly online on Facebook whereas before he wouldn’t use it much. I know it’s none of my business but makes me wonder if there’s someone else. I wonder what’s happened and would like ideas/ wise women’s insights. I am not wasting any more time on him and going to focus on myself and my life but I just don’t understand.
He also kept telling me he loved me very early on & he was on dating apps during our relationship- in the very early stages. He took me on one date whole relationship with lovely bouquet and a card but that was it. After that it was all to come over to his and very sexual.
trying not to be too upset
please no hate xxx