To feel like I've had enough?

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So DH sister has had a pretty severe mental health episode over the last 7 months which has culminated in a 7 week stay as a voluntary in patient in a mental health unit. She was discharged earlier this week. For the whole 7 months we have been the ones who've dealt with Drs psychiatrists mental health teams and social care and supported her. Tonight she's rung and accused me of stealing stuff. This is totally untrue, she actually owes us several hundred quid which we were happy to write off and I realise probably a result of her illness but we are supposed to be looking after her this weekend and right now I'm struggling as to how I go round tomorrow morning and act like this never happened.

just writing this has helped! Will suck my big girls trousers on and plaster that false grin on again!

I don't have any experience of your situation OP, but it does sound like your SIL has been discharged too early, could this be the case?

You sound like you've really been through it with her, does your DH do his fair share in this? Are there any other family members who can help out at all?

Yes dh is totally on board (he's actually ready to tell her we will go no contact which I don't feel we should do!)plus his other sister and brother are also trying to help her. The discharge was a shock (3 hours notice) but she wouldn't engage with them, or agree to treatments and always was negative and we are all agreed that the hospital had very little choice. Thank you I'm putting I'm grin on.

I wouldn't be babysitting a grown adult unkess they were my own child or possibly mum.

If she isn't willing or trying for whatever reason something to help ( medication), and then try another and keep trying then I'd be out.

No contact would be what I'd be saying if this continued. You have little choice. This is ongoing nonsense ( even if it's her MH ). If sectioned forcibly maybe medication is forced, I'm not sure. But at this point it's something she might be choosing not to do or work with. ( trying medication that might influence behaviour towards others positively).

I'd be out. And I have huge sympathy and understanding with multiple illnesses that make my life hard. Still not ok for you to be punch bags.

Thanks that's how I feel! She's been on or tried every antidepressant over the last 7 months. She was in hospital to get her into the tablets but now she's home she's told DH that she will be stopping the medication. My own lovely sis also has multiple illnesses but she like you gets on with it. Thank you

I strongly recommend you don't go round to her house tomorrow, and talk to your DH about setting some boundaries.
She may be very unwell right now. She could be experiencing paranoia or psychosis, and you just aren't equipped to deal with that. She needs expert help and meds.
If she's going to refuse treatment she may not get well for some time. She doesn't get to refuse treatment and treat you as her punching bag.

In your shoes I would say that unless she engages with her psychiatrist and takes her meds you will limit the amount of time and support you will give her, and you won't tolerate any abuse or accusations at all.

What I needed to hear. Thank you

What is she diagnosed with?