To want to pursue a relationship with this man.

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Womansplainer · 07/03/2025 20:11

I'm 47. He is 64 in a few weeks.

We get on brilliantly, love and attraction all there. Love one another company. It's very relaxed.

He doesn't look particularly young and I'm also a single parent to a 10 year old boy.

He's never been a parent.

Is this mad?

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rubberduck68 · 08/03/2025 12:38

Happystrider1 · 08/03/2025 12:35

I'm probably a bit naive

As you grow older and he needs care then he has the assets to do that as you aren't married. You aren't planning to intertwine your assets or finances by living together. It doesn't mean that you've got to be tied in to wiping his bum.

Worst case if you decide he is becoming a grumpy old man or your interests are no longer similar then you just part ways. I'm a bit confused to why people think you are tied in for life. As two adults surely you can set aside boundaries to your relationship and what would be an ending for you?

Even if you spend five years with this man, share some experiences and then reassess you've had five years of fun. I don't get why someone would necessarily end a relationship because someone might just need care in a few years time? That could be any one of us in our 30's with a similar aged partner. Things such as accidents, cancer, life debilitating conditions can happen at any age.

I was thinking this too, but I wonder if the OP is worried that as he has no kids it might all fall on her. Nothing wrong with making it clear that it won't OP, that you want a "living apart together" scenario and each takes care of their own care further down the line?

sometimesmovingforwards · 08/03/2025 12:45

Pursue if you want to, but be clear that you’re wilfully choosing difficult path.

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