To expect him to reply and check I got home safely?

[GlorificusT]

Last weekend my boyfriend and I went on a trip, we had a long weekend together and then he had to fly home to work. I stayed the rest of the week and travelled home today (we don’t live together yet). He warned me the night before the transport route was difficult.

So I sent a message at 9am this morning saying I was setting off. Sure enough the journey was hellish. He liked the message and otherwise hasn’t messaged me all day. He would usually ask how the journey went, ask if I got back safe or just check in on his lunch break.

I know I sound needy but how hard is it to send one message? It’s not a nice feeling.

I was going to say you don't know what's going on with him and should probably wait and see. Now you know he had been up working since 5am I'd've thought you'd give him a break. So, yeah, you're being unreasonable and needy.

On the flip side, where's your consideration for him now he's told you he's been up and working since the crack of dawn?

Another vote for YABU. You say that he’s usually considerate and checks in with you. He’s been up since 5am and is busy with work. I’d be prepared to give him a bit of grace.

I had a long, shit all-day journey today myself. But that’s all it was - I wasn’t travelling through a war zone and neither, presumably, were you. (If you WERE, that’s different and he should definitely have checked in!)

How has he been in the days leading to your journey?

Flip this around... Your boyfriend hasnt checked in on you when you're travelling, even though he normally does. Do you:
A. assume he's an uncaring selfish git
B. wonder if he's OK.

It's weird you've leapt to A.

I think you're being a bit precious. You're a grown woman, you can get yourself home without him being your cheerleader. He was at work and presumably busy. He probably thought he'd catch up with you once you were home.

I've been married 35 years and I can't remember DH ever asking me if I got home safely. He would assume that I have unless he heard otherwise!

I think the replies are unfair. You shouldn’t expect your boyfriend to check on you? Really? How dare you expect your actual partner to care enough about you to send a simple text! In the next breath they’ll be replying to someone with a horrible partner complaining about their low standards. You can’t win.

I hope when you speak to him next he apologies and acknowledges he should have messaged. Hopefully work getting in the way was just a one off.

Not weird when it's main character syndrome!

He had been up working since 5am, give him a break!!

He's sat down for a shit at some stage, he had time to send one text!

Who says romance is dead??