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theressomethingaboutmarie · 12/05/2008 08:34

So we both work full-time and have a 7.5 month old daughter. We take it in turns to have a lie-in at the weekend but DH was bounding about in frustration on Saturday morning when it was my turn for a lie-in as DD had woken up at 5:20am for a feed. Also, he wanted us to leave the house early to go to an event. So, needless to say, I didn't get much of a lie-in.

She woke at 5:20am on the Sunday and so I went and fed her straight away. Put her back down to try to get her to nap again (she's generally in a better mood when she wakes then) and left her for 10 mins. When it became clear that she didn't want to sleep any longer, I got up with her and took her downstairs. DH got to sleep in until 8:30am.

We had DH's family over for lunch yesterday so I was running around like a headless chicken getting stuff done. DD is teething again so was very grumpy and whinging which was driving me crazy. DH suggested that I go upstairs for a nap but as his family were due over in half an hour and we lots to get done, I declined.

So I work from home on Monday's and EVERY single Monday, I am the one getting up with DD to feed her at 5:30/6am when she wakes. I said to DH that he should do alternate Monday mornings with DD to give me a break. He said that he gave me the chance to catch up with sleep on Sunday (half an hour before his family were due over....

AIBU to expect that I should not be left to try to "catch up on my sleep". That DH should take his bloody turn on Monday's and do a better job of allowing me to have a lie in on the weekend.

We had such a stinker of a row about it this morning with him saying "we won't last long with this" (we've been together for 10 years).

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EffiePerine · 12/05/2008 08:53

Right, I think you both need to take a step back and calm down about this! Lack of sleep is absolutely debilitating, and the first year is hard enough for any couple... think you both need to give each other some slack.

A couple of suggestions:

when Dh gets up with DD at the weekend, make it clear that you are sleeping in till at least X (8am?) and then leave him to it. Did he wake you up on Saturday or did you wake up yourself because you were worried about DD?

when he suggests you have a nap, go and have one! Leave the last minute stuff to him, if his parents turn up and you are asleep HE can entertain them. You have an early rising and teething daughter, you are entitled to sleep whenever and wherever you can .

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