I am quite mad at DH. For context: DH is self employed and we have 2 dc- both under the age of 5. I’m a SAHM. Life is very demanding for him and in turn it’s very demanding for me as I have to do majority of the chores, cooking, and parenting without him there. I hardly get time to shower let alone visit the dentist and I had a toothache (cavity) that I’ve recently got fixed and I can’t believe I was ever living in that pain. He watched the kids while I had this appointment and a few days after he would bring it up in arguments to say how much he does for me. I concluded the argument saying that I’m not going to thank him for basic necessities as I am entitled to it and was in severe pain. Anyways, we got past that and today I was going on about how I’m glad I finally got it fixed. He said that he was annoyed when I said I wasn’t going to thank him for bringing in the money to pay for it because it just comes across ungrateful and that I should be lucky he funded my dental care and watched the kids. He likened it to if he didn’t thank me for always taking care of the kids; he said he doesn’t need to thank me for that either as it’s my job but he does it out of basic courtesy. I got mad at this for so many reasons (the top one being it’s my money too) I could be here all night but ultimately I decided to ignore him. Mind you, we are not hurting for cash in the slightest. He splashes more money on a night out with the lads than how much it ended up being. The only difference is one is fun and the other is a need. I think I deserve an apology.