To tell teacher " we were having far too much fun in the garden this weekend to do homework!!!!

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Or does the truth hurt??

They have SATS this week and again DS has been stressing about it on friday . He got very upset and worried. So i Thought bugger it... no homework this weekend and lets all play in the garden ....so we did

Im in the process of sending teach a letterr explaining that DS hasnt done his hwork and that is my fault not his, and I thought he really neede to chill out this weekend after being so upset.....and leading up to a busy week this week.

Please dont bite me about it

There's more to life than SATS. Your son will probably have gained more from having a fun weekend in the garden. But you will definitely get flak from the teacher because SATS make the world go round as far as many schools go, so don't expect them to just say "Oh, ok". SATS aren't that important, more about school's achievement figures than the pupils', but as long as he's doing OK overall I see no reason to stress over them.

Glad you had a lovely weekend!

I see it as my job to make let my son realise that relaxation time is just as improtant to him and those around him, than hard work.....He has been trying hard and I think I had to pull rank somewhat and say, enouhg is enough. He is year 4 pupil so it isnt even as if his SATs results are important to the school.

I think to go into his exams this week fully refreshed and happy is mor important. The school and teachers I can deal with

Good for you!

Good for you SA2.. Just had email from best mate telling me that her DS was worrying about his Sats this week and that he hadn't been sleeping etc... Not good at all..

Hope you had a great weekend.

All work and no play and all that..

Not much housework going to get done today, as I will be playing water fights with DD in the garden as soon as I have finished on here!.....

SATS are supposed to give an idea of how the school is performing in the day to day teaching. All this cramming and stressing and practising totally defeats the object.

It is ridiculous.

More time playing and socialising at an early age would be far better for our children, and society, than all this stress.

YANBU. I am glad you and your DS had a lovely weekend.

Dd wasn't given any homework this weekend, and she has had a lovely time playing in the garden. I really hope her teachers have been able to have a nice relaxing weekend too.

My DS2 Year 6 has just gone off to school totally stressed out and feeling sick with worry over his SATS. His teacher gave him homework this weekend, which pissed me off, but he has done it. There is far too much pressure on kids these days and I wish I was "brave" enough for him not to have done his homework. If he gets some next weekend maybe I will just say no!

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What work he does / doesn't do in the 2 days leading up to the SATs is hardly going to make a difference - but him learning that it is OK to kick back and relax sometimes and that SATs are not the be all and end all of life will make a difference - a very positive one. Good for you, and I do hope the teacher has the sense not to give you or DS a hard time about it.

i dont remember any big build up to tests when i was child- i know we used to go in sometimes and do tests but we didnt know what day it would be and there was certainly no pressure just head down no talking and when wed finished we got a juice cupdrink and after lunch we all played sports.

i look back on my junior schooldays s happy days full of sunshine and fun i dont remember sats and bullying.....

did you have a lovely weekend? is DS more relaxed? if he is he is far more likely to do the school proud than if he's all wound up and stressed. i think you have been most sensible.
do let us know what the school say.

My dd1 is in year 3, she has her homework set on a thusday to be handed in on a monday, if we have a really busy weekend doing fun things I write a note to say we were too busy at the weekend to complete the homework and that she will bring it in when it is finished. Last tuesday I wrote a note explaining we had been very busy over the bank holiday weekend so rather than force dd1 to do her homework Monday evening when she was tired she needed another day to do it.

I think it teaches kids that relaxation time is important and sometimes if work can be resheduled that is ok too. I may put it to the teacher that he will do this work and another opportune moment...although this week will be a no due to all the exam work. I think that ds realises that there are some things that cant be avoided but some things can be postponed

Heifer/ Nigella...yes thanks we had a fab weekend!!!!

BBQ's galore and cricket.....trampolining and a bit of footie.

Very action packed

I think you are being very sensible. Do hate all this pressure on small children. I don't remember having any exams until I went to high school. And you are right that SATS are supposed to be a test for the school, not the pupil!

I've sent a note in today to say that as we have been out all weekend (including a lot of playing in the garden) dd has not done her homework. She didn't do it last week either.

She gets horr on a Fiay t Monddy whii thieasonable espel dh and ork Friday evenings all ay Saturday so dd spends the time with grandparents and cousins.

Yesterday she went with her grandad to a poetry festival and performed a poem. Time better spent I think!!!!

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Well done, stop. Whatever pressure the teachers are under, they've got a nerve setting weekend homework at all.

In 20+ year of secondary teaching, I've only ever set reading over a weekend for exam groups and never set weekend work for anyone else. weeeknds are for family life. As Nan Taylor would say; what a fucking liberty!

Thanks all....am going to see teacher after school..

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there is something i would call a diplomatic lie. i would go for this strategy myself. but then, each to his own.

yes....dear mrs teach....DS stoppin didnt do his homework this weekend, he was far too busy being the undertaker and then seeing how far he could squirt water from his mouth.

He was also investigating if snails go any faster if you put them next to each other on a downwards slope.

He took part in in a barcelona Vs Real madrid game and nutmegged Henri ...he did so much, but unfortunately that didnt include his home work

Well Mrs Teach was very understanding and said not to worry....he had tried very hard today.

I never let my dd do homework over the weekend ( she is only 6) it is sometimes set and I always put a note in the diary saying we will do it in the working week.

I have the same policy as a teacher, never set homework for a weekend or over a holiday.

SATS are the work of the facking devil imo.
no, yanbu. good for you.
gold star for your parenting

We are about to move and one fo my friends is really shocked that we will be moving dd school in a SATS year. She thinks we should put our whole life on hold because of some tests!