Just after some advice on what to do in this situation

[ChirpyPeachPeer]

Hi, I’m just after some advice please or anyone that’s been in the same situation, I’m currently in a 2 bedroom flat with 3 children 12(boy) 6(girl) and 7(girl) son keeps on getting stressed and keeps on auguing with my daughters. Ds has been very snappy and moody lately. I have chatted to the council about it and they won’t move me into a 3 or 4 bedroom house the girls are happy to share but ds isn’t.

What is the room like? Is it big enough for bunk beds for the girls and a divider? Is there scope to make the living room transform into a bedroom for you? I can see sharing with 2 girls with that age difference would be hard as he becomes a teenager.

could you have a sofa bed in living room and let ds have your room?

My living room at kichen is in the same room and we don’t have a Dinng room and the living room is small

I would give my son his own room and sleep in the living room, or split the largest room with dividers and sleep in there with my dds.

12yo boys need privacy from their sisters.

This is the best short term solution, but you need to keep pestering the council.

Is there really no hope of a bigger place for a family with three growing children?

Another one for you sleeping in the living room. And have a boys and girls room it's not ideal but they need their privacy at that age

Your ds is 12 and shouldn't be sharing with his sisters. I'd give him the smallest room. Girls go in the other bedroom. Is it just you or do you have a husband or partner? I'd sleep in the living area on a sofa bed. Not ideal but I can't see any other solutions, unless the biggest bedroom is big enough to divide in two and then you have a section of it separated from your dds.

Maybe op lived in a mansion when she conceived the 3rd, maybe she had to escape DV and had to take what she was offered, maybe her circumstances changed dramatically.

Truth is we don't know, but I'm sure your judgy comment has ensured the op will feel really good about herself

Only lived in the flat for a year it was emargency acomadson.

You have no idea why the OP is in this situation so back off. What an unpleasant post

Cross posted with OP. Some people are the pits

Well, you won't get a 4 bed until your elder DD is 16. A 3 bed is a possibility but it all depends on the council's housing stock.
The higher your banding, the more of a priority you are so if any of your DC are disabled, make sure the council know this.

If it’s only temporary accommodation then are you actively bidding for more permanent suitable accommodation? Social housing guidelines say that opposite sex children over the age of 10 should have their own bedroom, so you’re eligible for three bedroom property.

Until you’re allocated a larger permanent home, I’d give DS one of the bedrooms and look at a daybed for yourself in the living room - things like the Ikea Hemnes are good and have storage for your duvet and pillows during the day.

She won't qualify for a 4 bed then either. Oldest would be 21 and would not count, being an adult expected to house himself

Could you put the boy in the small bedroom by himself, girls in bunks and you in single in the other bedroom then you can keep the living area separate. Sleeping on a sofa or sofabed isn’t a long term solution.

This is pretty much what I was coming to say.

Son has smallest room and either you share with your daughters or have a sofa bed elsewhere. Not easy in what sounds like a very compact flat.

No, persons over 16 can have their own bedroom under occupancy/LHA rules.

Same sex children under 16, and opposite sex children under 10 are expected to share.

Honestly OP I can only speak for where we are but if you were here you’d be waiting a long time for a 3 bed council. 8-12 years for Band B and below, 4-5 years for Band A.

Good suggestion.

Yes, but that wasn't even slightly the point, clearly.