WIBU to "celebrate" my 25th wedding anniversary this year, even if I have been a widow for most of the time?

[Jane958]

Obviously not with a party, but possibly with a luxury holiday?
It would just be me. We didn't really have a honeymoon as we married "abroad" (Scotland). H was divorced & we had thought about going to the Caribbean, just the 2 of us, or possibly with my step-son, to get married. However various people persuaded us to marry in church, in Scotland - all fine.
Just wondering if this would be seen as a big indulgence, considering I am currently on holiday, although in the other direction.
Should add that I am not a rich widow, so everything I have achieved has been by my own efforts.

You absolutely should. I’m sorry your DH won’t be there to share it with you, but I’m willing to bet he would be cheering you on.

Go for it. I'm sorry you had a short marriage. You should celebrate the day you got married.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. A happy marriage is absolutely something to celebrate, and I hope you have a lovely time whatever you do x

What a lovely idea to celebrate the love you and your Husband shared.

Who cares what anyone thinks? Indulge yourself. Why not?

Yes why not. It's a celebration and remembrance of your marriage and your husband, which sounds like it was a very important part of your life. Take the time for you, it sounds healing.

A carribean holiday from the UK is a fantastic indulgence. You seem to be worried about being judged negatively for that. Who do you know that would grudge you an indulgent holiday, and why do you give weight to their opinion?

We had a weekend away at a lovely lodge for PIL's 60th wedding anniversary recently. FIL died several years ago. It was important to mil to celebrate still

It's still a special date for you and you absolutely should mark it however you want to.

Commemorating 25 years since your wedding is something that if you wish to do, you should.

What a lovely idea. It's never wrong to celebrate happy relationships.

Yes, do it. Celebrate your wedding and your happy memories. Don't see how anyone could begrudge you this.

Thank you for the positive responses.
I don't live in the UK, so my options may be slightly more flexible.
We did both love the Caribbean, having spent holidays in Jamaica, Tobago and St. Lucia, so it would be fitting.
The alternative would be Kenya, where we had our first holiday together, but not sure I want to do all the anti-malaria stuff.

Yes, absolutely you should. Indulge yourself and take a few quiet moments to think about your lovely husband.

I'm so sorry your marriage was short 💐

Absolutely. My wedding anniversary means the world to me and we never ever got to celebrate our first one together. I think I will mark our fifth one in a similar vein.

Absolutely, you should celebrate however you wish. Sounds like a good way to honour your husband.
On a side note - my parents were congratulating each other on their 30th wedding anniversary 20 years after their divorce 😀

I'm sorry for your loss girl, you would definitely not be unreasonable xx

@Noelle5
That sounds fun!
My parents made it to 60 with much hilarity :-)

Why not? I would, and did. Had a big party for my 50th wedding anniversary even though I was a widow by then, though didn’t tell anyone what is was for until the night . My husband would absolutely have said ‘go for it’ and supported me (as he always did). We all had a great time and I made a toast to his memory.