I went through family court for years. Ex was denied access to our baby son by courts for a long time until he did a perpetrator programme. He refused to do it, denied the abuse despite significant evidence and fact finding in my favour (racial abuse, harassment, aggressive with our baby, coercive control etc etc). Only when the court said 'OK no contact then' and after dragging me through court for 3 years did he suddenly 'see change' and admit to the abuse. Then he did a perpetrator programme, courts were told he did brilliantly (of course, he's a manipulator) and he was given contact in a contact centre. Now he has him unsupervised. Son is in year 1 now and has disclosed to multiple different people that he's scared of his dad. His dad is angry. Dad has had a meeting with the school and they seem to accept his explanation of him having to ask him to stop doing stuff all the time because he's very hyper (he has SEN), and he perceives this as anger. Hes never accused anyone else of being angry of disclosed being scared of anyone else. All the my son is crying himself to sleep because he's worried he's done something to upset his dad. I can't do anything as there's a court order. All so messed up.