My DP has man flu. We don’t live together so he’s been feeling sorry for himself and barely communicative for days.
He speaks fluent English but is not from here.
Last night after my shift at 11pm, he suddenly text me saying “I want to be intimate with you right now”.
Now I was very confused. Firstly, why was he being so blunt about wanting sex, particularly having been so quiet? Kind of offensive, really. And also, wasn’t he feeling too unwell for sex? He also put some very uncharacteristic hug emojis at the end which made no sense.
As it happened, I did go over (what can I say…I have needs), and while we did have sex, he kept saying he was surprised he’d managed it as he’d felt so unwell.
This baffled me a bit because why invite me over for sex, if you don’t feel up to it?
Today I asked him if he thought he’d be recovered to catch up on Friday. He said he really didn’t know, he was feeling dreadful.
At this point I got a little annoyed. I asked why he was well enough for a very blatant late night booty call yesterday, but suddenly was too ill to meet Friday.
He was completely confused and insisted he hadn’t booty called me and the last thing on his mind last night had been sex, he just really wanted a see me.
After much back and forth, turns out his interpretation of “I want to be intimate with you” meant he wanted a hug and some quality time. He had never heard the phrase used to mean sex.
I actually thought it was rather funny in retrospect but sadly he didn’t and is rather annoyed at my assumption! I feel quite sad about this, firstly because I missed his good intentions but also because he’s genuinely really cross now.
I don’t think IWBU to think that though, based on how a native English speaker would use the word “intimate”.