To ask him to cancel

[Corncoby]

I’ve got a teething 6 month old, I’m also suffering with severe anemia so will be having an iron transfusion soon. I am also suffering from PMDD symptoms right now and very tearful and exhausted the anemia is making me so exhausted weak and dizzy the PMDD is also causing lost of other issues this week. Husband is working 6 days and out 3 nights this week once with a friend the rest a hobby. I’ve been trying not to fall asleep the past few days with the baby he’s tried to come back early from work but it’s not always possible and his phone will ring when back as he’s self employed. I’ve got no one who can come
and help. Today he came back for lunch and I got a half hour break but I spent most of
that crying in our room. at breaking point today trying to entertain a 6 month old while feeling exhausted nauseas from iron tablets and stressed. Partner is out tonight and I want to ask him to cancel. If I shouldn’t make him cancel how can I boost my energy for the evening. Husband is very hand on when home and helps loads he’s just not at home a lot due to work. He also has a very sedentary job so I do like him having his hobby as it’s the only exercise he manages to fit in. Usually baby will sleep when he’s out but this week he’s been completely off his milk and routine.

You shouldn't have to ask.

Does he know you spent today crying?

You need to be honest about how you are feeling and that you have reached your limit

Something has to give so the one with the greatest resources—him—has to be flexible. The level of physical discomfort and burnout you are experiencing is something no man is ever asked to work through. Don’t be embarrassed or reluctant to ask him for more help today—even if it means he misses out on his hobby. His pleasant want doesn’t trump your dire need.

Obviously your husband should stay at home. In regards to the iron instead of waiting for a transfusion get some ferrous sulphate 200mg from pharmacy iron tablets they worked wonders for me. You need to start getting iron in to your system or you won't stop feeling tired.

I’m on 200mg of iron at the moment but can only have 1 every other day as it makes me nauseous although every other day still makes me sick. Been on it for 3 weeks. Husband knows I’ve been crying he came home at lunch and saw me crying

Are you taking the iron with something high in vitamin C like a glass of orange juice? Also not at the same time or within 2 hours of others meds?

I’m having apple juice instead as I can’t drink orange I’m also tacking vitiman c tablets

I always found liquid iron to be easier to absorb.

But yes husband should stay home, you need it.

There is some German liquid iron supplement i took when I was anemic. It was much easier to absorb. Also try to explain to your dp that its ALL HANDS ON DECK time if he doesn’t want you to end up hospitalized .

You need to tell him you are on your knees and ask him to help you today but also work out a plan for how you are going to manage and sort your health. Are you taking the iron with strong vit c and without food or other vitamins? You won't be able to think straight but you need his help to make a plan and stick to it.
Be clear, tell him what you need and get any other support you can.

Yeah maybe take floradix on the days in between?

What did he say when he came home to find you crying Op? Did he ask and did you tell him honestly how you were feeling?

He came home and Told me to take a rest while he took over for half an hour but that he had to go back to work for meetings. We’ve had a big chat he knows I’m on my knees and he’s very supportive when home but works busy and we need the money. Our plan is for me to have an iron transfusion and get some paid help we can just about afford it for one day a week. We are yet to find one but will hopefully. Sorry forgot to say I take liquid iron water that I add to squash.