Am I being over sensitive?

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Hi everyone, little backstory: I had my DD 2 years ago, her "dad" left when I was pregnant, I've not heard from him since, grandparents were aware of their granddaughter, they wanted to have a relationship but as soon as I put in a claim for CM they immediately changed their tune and she became my responsibility fully, I chose to have the baby and I should not seek maintenance as their son didn't want a baby, so they no longer wanted a relationship with her. 🙄 fast forward to this weekend, I was having a little snoop on FB and see the "grandparents" at a charity gala, raising for money for kids. In the whole 2 years I've never messaged them or contacted them in any way. This really got my back up, I made a comment under the photo of both of them proudly at this event, words to the effect of : isn't it strange how you and your wife reject your own grandson but you support kids that you don't know or share DNA with, I know I should be the bigger person and I usually wouldn't bother but this really p*ssed me off, the comment was swiftly deleted by them and I am blocked. Would this bother anyone else? Or am I being overly sensitive!

Good for you OP!!!

Sometimes its best to take the high ground, but i think you were perfectly entitled.

Did they reply?

@Nottsandcrosses No! Just deleted the comment and blocked me, which I totally expected! I think my daughter has been kept a secret so nobody knows that they have a GC they don't see! I find it hypocritical to care about children you know but not one that's your blood!

Sorry, to care about children you don't know.

It's none of your business how they spend their money. They have no financial responsibility towards your son/daughter (you change that in your OP), your issue is with their son.

Do you have a son or a daughter?

Do you get child support from your ex now? Why would you think his parents should be liable?

I think you were out of order

But now you've just shown them how much headspace and energy you give them and the satisfaction of knowing you're angry with them. I wouldn't have let them have that snapshot of myself, the higher ground would have been to not say anything - you've just painted yourself really badly

I am angry, bitter, upset etc even after 2 years. If it was about myself I wouldn't care but it's my child, I am all of that above for her, I hate that that side of the family pretend she doesn't exist.
Maybe I shouldn't have wrote it but I don't believe I've painted myself badly at all.

You did make yourself look a bit daft, as well as telling them you stalk their Facebook profiles.

Fundraising for charity is unrelated to trying to keep in contact with the child their son shares with an exgirlfriend. They have (unsurprisingly) sided with their son rather than wanting to develop a relationship with your daughter.

It is crap, but I think it's their son/your ex who is the bad guy here. Them raising money for a child-focused charity isn't a bad thing*. I don't think you should have commented as it makes you look petty and a bit obsessed.

• unless it's sponsoring an adult to take part in an expensive hobby, as per the Sponsorship AIBU thread that ran to many pages, obvs!

I don't think they have any financial responsibility towards my daughter at all,
I was stating it's strange that they are caring about children they don't know and not caring about a child they are related to, maybe I am in the wrong, can't help the way I feel though.

I can't seem to get over it and I'll admit that.
I don't know why.

I think you were unreasonable. I'm sorry. It's not about you being sensitive, I jsut think it was inappropriate to comment on their post like that.

I can understand the desire to post that. But perhaps you could have privately messaged them instead stating your feelings rather than publicly shame them. It just seems a bit performative to do it that way.

Although I get the impulse, I'd have felt enraged too. But I guess it's about rising above these feelings. Sorry op and I'm sure you will be all your little girl will need in the end anyway. 💐