Who is right in this scenario ?

[Peterpiperpickedapepper1]

Hi

so parent A organised year 6 leaver hoodies, everyone paid the amount down there jumper which you could choose between children sizes or adult sizes if your dc are bigger which did cost slightly more not much.
there was a misunderstanding and after everyone paid and they were going to be ordered the invoice included VAT for the adult size hoodies.
parent A decided to split this VAT between all jumpers instead of asking the 5 parents who ordered adults to pay their vat.
parent B questioned why she would have to pay VAT after already covering the costs of her child’s hoodie.
for questioning it parent B was instantly refunded the whole jumper and child removed from the design.

who was being unreasonable?

Parent A is bonkers, and very unfair to penalise the child for what was their mistake which was rightly questioned by Parent B. Parent A should frankly be ashamed of themselves for such petty behaviour

The ones that think everyone else should pay for them.

A was unreasonable. The parents paying for the child’s sizes absolutely should not have to subsidise the other’s VAT. Whilst I understand the thinking behind splitting the cost, this should have been put forward to the group to agree to or not. If not, the parents whose children required adult sizes should have been informed of the extra VAT and could then choose whether to pay or not. If they choose not to, THEIR child is removed from the design. B was absolutely right in questioning it!

Parent A is wrong, but I assume the cost over the whole class was so minor parent B was just being a bit annoying, but is also correct- why should they pay for the cost of the bigger sizes, it should juts be an accepted cost of those buying the bigger sizes. Removing the child elevates parent A to a petty vindictive shit of a person though

Good grief that's insane. The organiser should have messaged the parents who bought adult sizes with something like "Hi parents, I made a bit of an error on the adult sizes. VAT is chargeable, so the total price is actually £X per hoodie. So sorry I missed that, please let me know if this is a problem etc etc". That's all this was required. What a bizarre way to behave.

Parent A sounds like a bloody nightmare.

You're misunderstanding the question. You've set it to a poll, but we cannot select YABU or YANBU because to do that we'd have to know who the 'You' was. They weren't asking who you think is being unreasonable out of A or B, they were asking who the Y in the YABU/YANBU was referring to!

This is not far off the mark to be honest 🤣

I once had a housemate who was allocating shares of a bill to each resident - she split the VAT equally between us, not taking into account that it is a percentage of the cost so it should have been proportional to each person’s share!

I'd be interested to know exactly what Parent B said when they questioned it. Because yes, Parent's A's behaviour does look unreasonable. But it's entirely possible that Parent B was really rude and unpleasant.

The VAT belongs to the adult-sized clothes, so it should have been paid by the parents buying the larger hoodies.

Parent A is on a power trip and is behaving appallingly.

Parent A is. My 10 year old is in bigger sizes and I expect to pay more for larger clothes.

On the face of it parent A is unreasonable but it would be good to know what was going on in the background. Chances are they took on a job that should have been simple but have since then been fielding questions from several other parents and parent B is the straw that broke the camels back.

in the background parent A and parent B have issues with each other, although there is few who have had issues with parent A over the years she is a very strong character who including myself has been intimidated by.

So the next question would be about how parent B approached the situation. If there is already issues they could have gone into the situation expecting a fight so creating one rather than having a balanced conversation.

I don’t see this being the case only because of “ language barriers “ and assertiveness levels.

I mean the extra ended up being like 2.00 so suppose we could say was it worth bringing up but then suppose 2.00 is a lot for some people.

Parent A is a fucking arsehole. Obviously.

A is an idiot and should apologise.

@Devianinc - in the U.K. children’s clothes are exempt from VAT and adult’s clothes are not. Once a child moves to adult sized clothes the cost increases as a result. That’s the law.

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