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Hate being pregnant

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ffedup · 03/03/2025 16:03

I never thought I'd say, think or type this but when I pictured pregnancy, I thought I'd have the odd symptom and then a glowy 2nd trimester but I don't, I don't "do" pregnancy well at all.

7 years trying, 8 miscarriages, no medical explanation as to why and I fell pregnant with DD and for 9 months I felt rotten, hyperemesis the whole way through, hospitalised many times, placenta stopped working at 37 weeks, 5 day induction, 2 failed epidurals and it was like I forgot about it as soon as she was born, I was and am still so in love with her and she was the easiest baby and still is as a toddler, she's happy, funny and full of life.

We decided we'd try for a 2nd and if I had another miscarriage, we'd draw a line under it and just remain grateful for DD.

I'm now 13 weeks pregnant and I feel vile. I am so depressed, I don't have hypermesis this time just such bad nausea from the minute I open my eyes to closing them, I only manage to sleep a few hours a night, I'm in agony with sciatica and dr gave me amitryptiline but cannot take them. I took 1, slept for 15 hours and woke up with what felt like a hangover from hell that lasted all day.

I have no energy, I'm lucky if I manage to eat a piece of toast a day, I feel guilty as I don't want to sit on the floor and play with DD, my whole body aches, from the minute I open my eyes I count down until bedtime, my DH is working 13 hour days then coming home and cooking, washing up etc (not that he'd ever complain) and I think to myself multiple times a day what the hell have I done?

I want my old life back, where I was out and about with DD every day, when my house wasn't piled up with laundry and cleaning to do, when I enjoyed dinner with DH and had 10 hours sleep a night, when I could get through the day without gagging, a banging headache and back pain.

I'm so sad and don't know why I thought this was a good idea, I just want to disappear.

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Garman · 03/03/2025 16:53

My third pregnancy was extremely difficult and I genuinely struggled to get through the days. The baby ended up coming 6 weeks early and while I wouldn’t wish that on anyone and it was a hugely difficult situation I was so relieved in terms of my body and mental health because I don’t know how I would’ve survived a week longer. Some women just have absolutely shit pregnancies, it’s okay to hate it and be miserable, just survive and hour or a day at a time.

Allswellthatendswelll · 03/03/2025 16:59

Aww pregnancy can be really hard and I think often harder after infertility, loss and/ or a tricky birth. You know as this isn't your first child that it doesn't mean you don't enjoy parenting. Hopefully you won't have too long to go sickness wise and will get a bit of reprieve soon.

MsCactus · 03/03/2025 17:02

I have shit pregnancies too! Currently 26 weeks and unable to walk from the pain - exhausted all the time, and absolutely huge (I'm usually slim/petite). I'm just nothing like myself when I'm pregnant - but this is my second time around (ended up bedbound with the first), I know I just need to get through it.

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