DH and I are using shared parental leave but it’s not working out how I expected. I was reluctant to give up a few months of my maternity leave but everyone told me how it would make my partner appreciate me, turn us into equal parents etc but I don’t think that’s happening at all.
DD is 10 months and most days DH has her sitting in her playpen watching tv whilst he does some DIY, work (!) or watches his phone. I’m wfh so can hear them downstairs. I am purposefully staying out of their way but it’s making me so angry as I can hear DD whinging all day, because she’s bored and wants attention! When I log off I feel I have to go straight downstairs and play with her, do bathtime dinner and bed so she gets some attention. I’m still doing the lions share of cleaning, cooking, washing etc and looking after our toddler after nursery.
They’ve been out of the house a few times to the supermarket and that’s it, I sent DH some classes etc to go to but he didn’t get round to booking them so they’re full now.
Just need to vent really as I’m gutted I’ve given up my time to spend with DD and I feel bad for her.