Living apart and falling apart

[Livingincanadaafter19yearsinlondon]

I need advice as I'm totally over my husband's lack of initiative or consideration of anything in our lives and wonder if iabu or if he's right that I'm a control freak who worries too much.

We are currently living apart as he's been relocated to the UK. I'm in our relocated country with our kids. Am working full time and selling our house abroad. I am the one messaging our agents to try to reclaim possession of our UK home and supporting my son who will be mid GCSE when we return (having minimal exposure to the content while abroad) and research school placement and alternatives etc. Also managing the day to day and emotional needs of another upheaval for our other children nevermind myself!

I feel like i just do... everything. Have to think of everything. He, upon my request, now sends the kids a couple daily videos and money, of course. But I have to update him on everything, he will do what I ask but not a button more and I'm just so mentally spent of having to consider everything on both sides of the pond and everyone's needs while he gets to go on walks at the weekend and sleep late and it feels like he just pretends we don't exist until it suits him. While I manage all the worry about our bills and our children and all the pragmatic details of this monumental task of relocating back to a country and life he loves!

YANBU so in your position I would put him in charge of doing the UK bits- reclaiming the house, finding schools etc. while you deal with the Canadian side of it. It’s just easier to do the bits where you are in the same country. if he thinks it’s no big deal and you worry too much then he won’t mind dealing with it, will he?