to feel so negative about my future

[Northernstar01]

I am in my late thirties and I have recently ended a long term relationship with a very small baby. It was my decision to leave because I couldn’t take anymore of the emotional neglect, lack of partnership and disconnect that followed on from a few months of relationship problems. I am really hurt and resentful about his actions and at the same time I cannot stop feeling really down about my future. l never wanted to be a single mother and I feel a gutted about how things have turned out. I am scared of being lonely.
I am holding it together for my daughter but I hate my life so much. Do you have any positive stories of finding happiness after marriage ends at my age? Am I unreasonable to be so negative?

Bump

Don't feel negative about your future!! It's already looking so much brighter now you're not going to be in a crappy relationship in the future, you've got a chance to make such a lovely life for yourself away from someone who brought you down 😀

I think it's a normal reaction to what you've been through. But there is light. You've taken steps to make your life bigger, better, brighter. This is just the start for you and your baby ❤️

I'm a 40 year old single mum. I ended a miserable abusive relationship a year ago and I couldn't be happier now. I bounce out of bed most days since I kicked him out. You are allowed to feel the way you feel now. But it will pass and you will feel positive again.

Yes plenty of couples break up and form new blended families. My brother divorced and is now with a woman with two teens (he also has 2 teens). It's not the end at all. Many many fish in the sea albeit not that many ones one would want to fish!
I say focus for now on your present and raising your child, and join any groups you can to get out and about. A friemd of mine divorced at 42, and launched full scale into all sorts of music, sports and walking groups. It took 10 years but he found his girl!