will try keep this short. I only met my biological father for the first time last year as an adult, he was never hard to find, lived fairly locally, mutual contacts etc, he has me, 2 with his first marriage and 2 with his current wife. All grown up now, me being in the middle somewhere, my mum called off their wedding as he cheated. I seen him a few times as a small child apparently but have no memory of this at all.
anyway, growing up my mum was always adamant bio father had another child before all of the above including myself were born, when he was about 18 so approximately 10 years older than me. She always said this but since I’ve met him she keeps saying she’s not sure if she got it right now but she always said it without doubt over the years that he had told her this.
anyway, I’ve met up with bio dad a few times. Would it be wrong/bad/inappropriate of me to ask him for clarity? I assume said child (not a full grown adult) had no contact as my mum said his first child supposedly lived in another part of the country, when he was temporarily living in another area.
or just leave it be? I’d like to know if there was another estranged child out there! He had contact with the two from his first marriage but not me. I’ve always felt like the unwanted one.
wwyd?
also, recently did an ancestry dna test as it’s one of my interests to find out my heritage but was also secretly hoping I’d have a match - but nothing overly close on there.