To expect a restaurant to be able to do a pint of milk?

[YourAgileBiscuit]

My autistic DD (13) will normally only drink milk when we are out in restaurants etc.

Some restaurants (including chain restaurants and pubs/carvery places) get a bit funny about it when she orders/asks for milk though. Even though they already have milk for the kitchen and for teas/coffees. We’ve had some restaurants outright refuse as well even though they have milk in the building.

Is it unreasonable to expect restaurants to be able to serve milk for a paying customer? Of course we pay for her milk, we are not asking for it for free!

I would say about 50% of places we go to get funny about it which I don’t understand as they already have milk in the building.

They tend to be paid the bare minimum, so why go above and beyond and potentially risk their job.

I don't think you need to have run a business to work out why this might not be possible in many places - just common sense and a tiny bit of critical thought.

Nobodies msking a SEN child go without apart from the parent ,I say this was the parent of a severely autistic non verbal teen
If a cafe can't meet his needs I'll find one that can u can't expect a cafe to go against their principles aa a one off because I choose to visit them.

Surely though if a cafe/restaurant can’t supply what is needed then it should be fine for them to eat/drink something from home if they are with family / friends who are spending money there ?

And again evidencing 'I've decided what I want has to be given... DO IT!!'

Noones said that can't be done though!?

Is it ok for someone who eats meat to take their own meal to a vegan cafe if they are with people who are paying for their own meals?

According to some on here, absolutely!.

OP said sometimes places aren’t ok with it ?

Well not really if it's against their rules I'm all for for disabilities rights as I have a disabled child but people who try and claim they are being discriminated against when they are not help no one.

That’s not a relevant comparison I was saying why is it a problem in an establishment that serves milk for them to either supply some for a child to drink or allow them to drink some from home ?

Is it ok for someone who eats meat to take their own meal to a vegan cafe if they are with people who are paying for their own meals?

They don't even have to take it according to some on this thread. They can just ask for it, then it's simply good customer service for one of the people who works there to stop what they're doing, pop along to the nearest shop for a steak, buy it, cook it, then put it through the till as something else.

Literally nobody has suggested anything of the sort 😆😆

In English?

It is very clearly written in English. I think you could do with taking a refresher course at sarcasm.school.

Could you perhaps take milk cartons with you or in a flask? Then if not provided, DD drink your own

You’re reasonable to expect to order what’s on the menu. If milk isn’t listed as a drink, then it’s ridiculous to think it would be available. Just because a restaurant offers pasta with Parmesan grated on top, doesn’t mean you can expect to order an entire meal of it alone. Suppose you could pick BYOB places, then pay corkage on milk you’ve brought yourself…. Or your daughter could do without a drink at the meal.

Or they upset more customers that want coffee but can’t have it because they’ve sold more coffee that they expected?

Actually most places you absolutely can order pasta with the sauce left off and just Parmesan. It's no different than asking them if you can have the pasta without mushrooms. An occasional place might have all food pre-made and microwaved, but decent restaurants usually make some food fresh. It'll be put through the till as whatever the original pasta cost. I'm not sure why you would think you can't ask for adjustments to dishes?

@GRex
That wasn't the point of the post.
The poster was saying that she would just order a whole plate of Parmesan.
After all, the restaurant serve Parmesan.
And if they run out they could just run along to a shop and get more.
Put it through the till as something else.
Ie what many responders here have said the restaurant should do for milk.

For large and chain establishments I would suggest that is issue is more to do with, how much to charge, how to put it through the till (which button) and then justifying at a stock take. Ie, 'you've sold X teas and coffee's but your out of milk' type situation

Parmesan is put on the table, if you choose to spoon it out and eat the lot then everyone will think you're weird, but nobody will stop you. Some of you seem to really feel there's some kind of gotcha that doesn't exist but would mean it's unreasonable to ask a restaurant to accommodate a request. As you can read, loads of us successfully order a glass of milk every day in a range of establishments. Why not stop pretending it's impossible when you read that, just accept it was outside your personal experience?

It’s not something I’m used to seeing on menus. If it’s all your daughter will drink, take your own? In a chilli bottle?

What part of that post did you not understand?

@GRex

1. I've never in my life seen an entire plates worth of Parmesan (or pint of milk) on a table for customers to help themselves to.
2. Of course it's perfectly possible in some restaurants. That's obvious. The ops query was why can I not in all restaurants? Which has been patiently explained repeatedly by people with the power of thought to those without. And still they can't get it.