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Aibu, shopping. Is this a man thing? Lighthearted

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Pinkcosycandles · 02/03/2025 14:54

This is lighthearted before I get jumped on.

But seriously, does anyone else's dh/partner do this?

If we are out shopping or browsing. Clothes and stuff not food shopping. Dh either disappears completely, or follows me around really closely, so close that he's almost tripping over me, then will sort of stand directly in front of what I'm looking trying to look at, completely oblivious. If I ask him to help me choose or find something even quite specific he will wander off and pick up the most random, strange and hideous thing in the shop and keep saying "what about this" over and over again.

I'm not really one for trailing round the shops these days myself, but even on the rare occasion that we do need to go and choose something it feels like such an ordeal that I'm reminded why I should just go on my own.

It doesn't help that I haven autism so find the shops when busy quite overwhelming and dh is very hard of hearing but won't wear hearing aids and can't hear a word I'm saying in a crowded place.

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AllProperTeaIsTheft · 02/03/2025 15:14

Sounds weird. If dh and I go into town yo do that kind of shopping, we split up and go to the shops we each want to go to, then meet up for coffee/lunch. I can't see the point of dragging him around with me to look at women's clothes tbh!

GoldenPineapple15 · 02/03/2025 15:15

Like the pp we split up and arrange a time to meet at a specific coffee shop .

MasterBeth · 02/03/2025 15:15

I don't think it's unusual.

Lots of men aren't up to speed on women's fashion (or men's fashion, come to that). They don't really know what they're supposed to be looking at, what is supposed to be nice or not. They don't know the codes. So they get bored and frustrated, and they've not been socialised to grin and bear it, as women are.

Whycanineverthinkofone · 02/03/2025 15:19

It’s not a man thing, it’s a your dh thing.

funnily enough some men like shopping, clothes and fashion, the same as not every woman likes those things.

dh has a good eye for clothes and style, particularly colours. I generally dress in black as I am clueless.

dh likes clothes shopping. We generally go together, he buys lots of stuff while I follow him around agreeing it looks great 😂.

ItGhoul · 02/03/2025 15:25

Depends on the man. Why don’t you just shop for clothes on your own? He’s obviously bored and why would you need him there?

I really loathe having company when I shop for clothes. Even if my DP was interested in clothes (which he isn’t) I would suggest he went off and did his own thing and then we’d meet up again afterwards. I once had a boyfriend who wanted to shop with me and it drove me mad!

Pinkcosycandles · 02/03/2025 15:28

Tbh we do tend to split these days. We were actually choosing a gift for a mutual friend's birthday. We knew what we were getting but just needed to choose the right one.

I've learnt my lesson though, it's not his area.

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